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Loosing the will to live
cripps
Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
I need someone to talk to I’m loosing the will to live, suicide is looking good and soon
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youre not alone and there’s a lot of people who feel like that, once you hit rock bottom the only way is up! I’m here for a chat. I’ve got all the time in the world
xxx
things may be really bad now but this time in a few weeks you’ll think what was I worrying about?
youre worth more than thinking like that xxx
theres also days out they can sort out for you too and you’ll be with other people, it will do you good!
When my nana passed away my grandad used to go on all different kinds of days out because he felt lonely and he used to really enjoy it! Please don’t think people aren’t here to help you because they
Please don't feel that you are alone, keep posting and someone will reply. If you feel you need to talk to someone straight away please don't hesitate to call the Samaritans on 116 123. They will always help xx. Are you mobile at all? Could you visit the local animal sanctuary as a way of getting to meet people? If you are not getting any help from your social worker maybe someone can tell you on here if you can request a different person to be allocated? Xx
We all deal with our conditions in different ways, I was born with EB so I’m used to it now, it hurts a lot but I have to plod on
yes they’re in bed! They’re like two little whirlwinds ha ha x
Really sorry to hear your feeling like this. I agree with leannemich your social worker is not supporting you at all. I would ring where the social worker is based and ask for a change, she should be giving you the support you need. Please dont give up you are better than that. I have 3 cats and they have helped me through my darkest times. One of mine knows when I am going to have a seizure before I do they are so intelligent. Heres a number which can help just for men called calm which is freephone 0800585858 they might be able to help and give you contact numbers for agencies for places to meet people. You mentioned you have no friends or family do you have any neighbours who could give you company. If you feel you can no longer longer look after your cat you could try this website https://www.catchat.org/index.php/cat-rescue-centres-cheshire. It says its based in Cheshire so they maybe able to help you. Cripps if you need people to talk, you can talk to me as well I will be glad to hear from you. If you feel like you need to talk I will be here as well. Take care x
They were supposed to offer help and arrange care for me when I was discharged from hospital. A total of 6 weeks worth of help/care was promised for my wife. Received zilch! My wife was at her wits end, trying to get me to eat food (after months of being fed by intravenous line in hospital), trying to get me to move around (after months in a hospital bed).
Then when things were at breaking point some years later through my health deteriorating we asked for help again. This time we both had an assessment and my wife was told that she would be given time off away from me to recover meeting other people in a similar situation. I was told that whilst she was away someone would pop in and check on me. Neither of us heard or saw anybody. Weeks later I telephoned them and was told that my case had been closed as I had received the help I needed???/ I put the phone down in disgust.
So now we have only ourselves to look to - to solve problems and plan our lives. You just get used to finding ways around the problems the best way that you can.
Ironically it has made me stronger in will and I now take responsibility for pushing myself to become a part of the general population.
So suggesting that Social Workers are the be all and end all is in my opinion a load of rubbish.
I understand the symptoms you describe and it was because of that reason I saw my GP and told him that I wanted off the stuff. He tried to persuade me to keep on with them but I insisted. Eventually he relented and gradually reduced the dose to nil over a few months.
I am still in pain and suffer from PTSD, depression etc but my brain works again!!
Given the choice of feeling like a zombie or in pain with mental health difficulties I chose the latter.
Sometimes the side effects of the medication can be worse than the symptoms of the condition that they are treating
So I too have been through it - you are not on your own. All I did was find just one positive thing I wanted to do and concentrated to try to take my life back. It need not be a big step, as long as it is a step in the right direction.
My first step was to eat something. My wife tried everything to tempt me eventually finding the one thing I eat - a toasted bacon sandwich!! The first bite of food for many months.
Money was extremely tight as both my DLA award and IIDB had been terminated due to not sending back the completed review forms whilst I lay in the hospital - this was in early 2004. It took me a further 7 years (2011) to gather the strength (both physical and mental) to re-apply for both benefits. So for those 7 years we lost a lot of income which had to be put on the credit card.
Ironically for the IIDB one, the DWP actually agreed to backdate the award to when it stopped but because I failed to appeal against the determination to suspend/cancel the award in 2004 they said that they could not make the 7 years of back payments (£20,000+).
Take care
My advice - go see your GP and tell him/her that you are reaching out for help where in the past you were in the denial stage.
If not, go onto your council website and look for a Councillor close to you. Ring him/her up tomorrow and ask for a chat at your home. Tell him/her that you want help but have no idea of how to ask for it.
I honestly don't know any Councillor that would not come round to see you. You will be surprised how knowledgeable the person will be. I do it for my residents!
Sue
Your everyday activities etc can also help. I know when you're depressed you don't feel like doing much, but having a bit of structure to your day can help. I like to plan my day the night before so I know I won't have too much time to just sit around and mull over my anxieties. I can appreciate it's hard to get out sometimes with a disability, but there are activities you can do at home too. I find if I just give in to the depression and don't eat and lay in bed all day my mind is so much worse. Have regular meal times and schedule activities to do in between. Distraction can help. Cross words, arrow words, films, writing, reading a novel. There are even websites that link up pen pals, so you could receive regular contact from someone who could become a friend. Just do a google search for 'penpal finder'.
I know things seem difficult and feel like you're getting nowhere sometimes, but I believe if you push on you WILL see improvements. Stay strong. You can do this!
Im sorry to hear you have been feeling down again, it's good to see so many responses from members and it is good to hear you sounding a little brighter in more recent posts.
As we have said before, if you feel you can't keep yourself safe right now, seek immediate help.
If you need some support right now, but don't want to go to A&E, here are some other options for you to try:
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As to making another phone call, ok your not getting any wheres with social workers or GP so why not give one of the other numbers a go, this may well be what you need, to talk to someone who has the time to listen and actually help you. This move may take you to another level around that corner which you so rightfully deserve and need. so don't roll it around in your head for to long Neil.
Sue
If there's anything we can help or support you with in terms of your ESA application, please do let us know. It can feel like a really daunting process but even if the outcome isn't what you're hoping for, there are ways to appeal the decision and ensure you're getting the correct award.