My goal today

leeCal

My goal today is to learn and understand why I should let go of negative emotions pertaining to an incident which happened long ago. Quite simple really but as I’m sure most people would agree easier said than done. However with training I’m sure it will be possible to unlearn my go to anger response and replace it with an understanding of the reasons why it arose, compassion for the other in other words. It’s worth a try anyway and what can I lose except a negative emotion.

Cress

To stop hearing Tammy Wynette singing one day at a time on a loop inside my head...**** that about?

janer1967

@Cress I can imagine that is frustrating getting a dong out of your head

@leeCal that sounds like a good goal today and very positive thinking I hope you find a way, have you ever tried hypnosis

I haver to fill in my driving license renewal will be pretty easy though as I will be surrendering my license not driven for 3 years now and no prospect of ever doing so again I loved driving and the independance it gave me but hey ho just another aspect of becoming disabled 

Once advantage is though I can have a drink when out now as Im not the driver

Cher_Alumni

@cress That sounds like an annoying ear worm 

@leeCal Have you heard of Acceptance and Commitment therapy?  If you give it a quick google you might find it handy.  It's about learning to accept that we have no control over to gain inner peace.  I hope you are having some luck 

@janer1967 Always a silver lining and being able to have a drink isn't shabby.  

I went for a walk this morning so I consider my goal achieved!  I'm trying to re-introduce more gentle exercise into my days as I may have gotten a little lazy.

leeCal

Hi @janer1967 I did try hypnosis once to help pass some exams, it helped I think, but I haven’t tried it for anything else. Thank you for the suggestion.

@Cher_Scope thanks for that, I’ll google it and read up, of course acceptance is a big part of Buddhism and I’m very interested in it generally speaking. 

Globster

Since I have thinking positive has shown me that I can achieve anything.
 

leeCal

I agree @Globster being positive is great and can help you achieve all sorts of things. ?

Grinchy

So today i have spent in bed and being in my star wars room still moving stuff and adding figures, feel drained, i think the last week has caught up with me, the big move for my son to london, then the rearanging of rooms, just a bit much, i'll be back to normal in a day or so, glad everyones doing well

Cher_Alumni

@globster @leecal Keep on thinking positive   

I also try to practice self-compassion, which you can find more information about on the Self-compassion.org website.  This is about speaking to yourself with the same empathetic tone as you would a good friend.  Don't get me wrong, it isn't always easy but it helps banish that negative voice that occasionally creeps in!

Cress

I'm going to try reading again...dont know if it's the anxiety and depression or the meds I'm taking but for years now I haven't been able to read a book....I'll read a page and the realise nothing has sunk in...and reading was the only thing that would shut up the constant noisy racket of the thoughts racing inside my head all the time....I really miss it...being able to escape into a different world far removed from my own....

66Mustang

Cress said:

I'm going to try reading again...dont know if it's the anxiety and depression or the meds I'm taking but for years now I haven't been able to read a book....I'll read a page and the realise nothing has sunk in...and reading was the only thing that would shut up the constant noisy racket of the thoughts racing inside my head all the time....I really miss it...being able to escape into a different world far removed from my own....

This sounds very similar to me...I haven’t read a book for a long time, ever since my  mental health issues became more acute. And, when I read something like a forum post or article, I often have to read it several times as it just does not go in for some reason.

It is a relief to find out I’m not the only one but sorry to hear it affects you too.

Tori_Scope

This is very common sadly @Cress and @66Mustang

Have either of you tried audio books? They can be a great way of drowning out the noisy thoughts whilst getting the information into your brain. You can even read along with them to get yourself back into it.  

Cress

Thanks @Tori_Scope and @66Mustang

Never thought to try audio books as I think I assumed it would be the same as the tv....which never shuts up my thoughts...lol
I think I'll give it a go though..reading along with them might help.
I really hate that that little bit of a refuge was stolen from me...lol

Tori_Scope

Yeah it does suck @Cress. I haven't listened to audio books as much as I'd like, but I've enjoyed them when I've tried them in the past. It's worth a try, anyway!

Globster

I am venuing into things I ever imagined is possible not seeming to be impossible with me thinking positively and so focused on successeding nothing is going to stop me  

Cher_Alumni

@Globster Woo!! That's what I like to hear.  Good luck 

Globster

@Cher_Scope I must say a big thank you to amazing people on the scope online community for giving me the motivation and courage to give different things ago Now I do not have any mental barrier from stopping me from achieving anything I set my mind to as I have never give up attitude to succeed at it if keep working at each day I realise my dream one day 

Tori_Scope

That's great to hear @Globster! Onwards and upwards

66Mustang

@Tori_Scope thank you for the suggestion. I had to read a book for an A level a few years ago and I actually ended up getting that in audiobook format so yes that does help, I should give it a try again! Thanks.

leeCal

Watched a couple of Eckhart Tolle videos today, excellent and very helpful.