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House-sharing with other disabled people?

New to the forum - hi!
So I'm ashamed at my ignorance on this, but I've been trying to work out whether house-sharing is a popular choice for disabled people to the extent that it's something that can be readily found. I've surfed the internet and asked local and national advice services but come up empty so far. So it's crowd-sourcing time!

Basically, I've always shared houses or lodged with non-disabled people (I only once came across one disabled landlord advertising), but a chronic illness has declined to the point where - combined with social anxiety - I find it increasingly difficult to share with people who aren't hip to the social model (i.e. seemingly a majority). Sadly, I've yet to learn the magic trick to opening minds that doesn't involve finding it *painfully* difficult and then giving up from exhaustion.

I'll keep trying to get better at educating/integrating, but I'm thinking things being as they are it would be a hell of a lot less stressful (in general) to share a house with other disabled people. Living alone brings it's own pros/cons, not least cost. BUT...in your knowledge and experiences, are "all-disabled" house-shares much of a thing for independent single people? Where else to look?? Any thoughts etc. appreciated!

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  • Libby_Scope
    Libby_Scope Posts: 736

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    edited January 13
    Hi @Spoonbill

    Welcome to the community and thank you for your comment :)

    You make a really interesting point and I've just been doing a bit of research online as I'm unaware myself of any house sharing websites/apps that highlight 'disabled house shares etc'. From my personal experience, I suffer with two invisible chronic illnesses (Endometriosis and PoTs) which I was newly diagnosed with a few years ago. I have recently moved into a new flat (alone) and I think it's the best decision I've made because I can get on with my daily routines which help me manage my chronic illnesses and I can do it in my own time/space which makes things a lot easier/more comfortable for myself. It's more expensive of course, but personally it's something that I knew would benefit not only my physical health but also mental health. 

    I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful, but hopefully our members will share some of their experiences or have other insights to add to the suggestions. 

    If you have any other questions, then please just let us know :)

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  • Spoonbill
    Spoonbill Member Posts: 19 Listener
    Thank you @Libby_Scope no, that's very useful to hear. :) I can see that advantage too but tend to fall into isolation if I'm not careful. OTOH I plan to move to where there's more social opportunity, which ought to help. It's useful to know the choices others make and why, so I definitely appreciate your sharing. B)
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Member Posts: 2,411 Pioneering
    Hi @Spoonbill welcome to the forum  I've a link you might find useful.

    https://homeshareuk.org/
  • Spoonbill
    Spoonbill Member Posts: 19 Listener
    edited January 14
    Thank you. @Sandy_123 that's interesting, hadn't seen that one.
    On it's face, seems to be something of a work exchange which would tend to favour those with ability to work around the house owner (who, as property owner is in the position of control) whereas my condition is variable, domestic labour could be a sticking point considering my own health needs and I have difficulties of my own to work around, but I should see if I can get more of a feel from looking into it some more with as open mind as possible - maybe there's enough range and adaptability to put some time into it.
    Thanks again - will post back with any updates  :)
  • Spoonbill
    Spoonbill Member Posts: 19 Listener
    edited January 14
    Reporting back on HomeShare suggestion above: can confirm it's a work exchange-cum-low rent hybrid arrangement - might be great for e.g. a part-time student/worker able to deal with the initial red tape and insecurity for low rent and domestic services? Unfortunately unlikely to be workable for me - but thanks anyway!
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 7,049

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    I'm not aware of anything specific either unfortunately @Spoonbill, but I'll keep an eye out.

    Have you tried putting an advert up? I used SpareRoom to find my current houseshare, and was able to make a personal ad for free so that people looking for tenants could contact me, as well as me reaching out to them. Perhaps putting up an advert explaining that you're looking to live with other disabled people could help you to reach others who are in the same position, or who at least might be a bit more understanding? 

    The only other thing I thought of was joining some online groups for disabled people in your area and seeing whether anyone else is looking to move into a houseshare. I know that some groups exist for people in the LGBTQ+ community who are looking for houses where they're safe to be themselves, so it could be that they exist for disabled people too. Have you tried looking on social media sites such as Facebook to see if these exist in your area? It's obviously important to remember to keep yourself safe when meeting people you've met online, so make sure you meet them in a public place beforehand to talk things through, and let a friend or family member know where you are!
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  • Spoonbill
    Spoonbill Member Posts: 19 Listener
    edited January 15
    Thanks @Tori_Scope - yes, I'm beginning to conclude that a specialist website or agent is too specific (unless maybe for London or similar) - and I just need to play the numbers game in the normal places; I might make the ad also for any other disabled people(/disability-positive?) looking to join up in a share, since timing can be flexible.
    I do like your thinking on the local message board/forum idea - I could see if there's a local group on-line or/and preferably in person once that's a thing we're doing again! (My planning to move area makes any way around trickier, but that's unavoidable for reasons.) I planned to do that anyway once I'd moved. Unsure of timing right now as needing to move to a friend's temporarily ASAP but I'll def. look into that!
    Still also interested to hear from any forum users already in such a house (at least to prove that such an arrangement can be successfully organised!). Thanks again.  B)
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 7,049

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    I might make the ad also for any other disabled people(/disability-positive?) looking to join up in a share, since timing can be flexible.
    I think that's a good plan @Spoonbill :) It's great that you can be flexible with the timing, too, as it'll allow you to wait to find the right people.

    Yes, it's worth having a look to see if there are any groups. Even if no one in the group is looking to move, they might know of someone you could chat to. 

    I hope some members with personal experience of this find your post soon!
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