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lisa86 Community member Posts: 18 Connected
Hi I’m Lisa and new to the coffee lounge.
I am off work for 3 months (half way through) after major surgery to my foot, which is plated and screwed for a second time. I’m finding things tough as pretty much housebound as unable to weight bare for 12 weeks in total, then need a scan and X-rays to make sure it has healed this time. 
My friend died a couple of weeks ago, and his funeral was yesterday.
I don’t have any real friends or close family, just mum who I live with, who can be difficult to get on with.
I am feeling lost, useless and hopeless and alone.
I also have a multitude of other medical problems and disabilities.


  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 52,451 Disability Gamechanger
    edited June 2022
    Hi @lisa86 welcome to the forum. Sounds like your going  through it at the moment. As your half way through it with your foot, why not spend next half nattering to us. Plenty topics to join in with and might keep you occupied. Sorry to read about the loss of your freind. You say your feeling lost and hopeless at the moment, once your foot is healed you'll be able to do things you used to before.
  • lisa86
    lisa86 Community member Posts: 18 Connected
    Thank you for your advice.
    my GP isn’t supporting me, you’re lucky if you get an appointment when your on deaths door, let alone grief.
    I will somehow just have to get through it. I have a dog who is close to me, I will just keep telling myself he is there for me and needs me also.
  • Ross_Alumni
    Ross_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,652 Disability Gamechanger
    Helloo @lisa86 and welcome to the community :) 

    Thank you for making your opening post and telling us a bit about what you are going through. I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your friend, that must be a really difficult thing to have to deal with alongside everything else.

    I appreciate what you say above about your GP not supporting you, and it's a shame, but if you do feel as though you need support at this time to manage your mental health I would encourage you to try and make an appointment with them. You could also refer yourself to a different GP if you feel as though your current one isn't helping you as they should.

    What makes you say that your mum can be difficult to deal with? Have you spoken with her about how you feel?

    Samaritans are a fantastic resource and I'm glad to see that teddybear12 has provided their details :) They're certainly worth keeping in mind if you ever fancy a chat with somebody. Additionally, our helpline is there too if you want to speak with any of our friendly advisers. Of course, you're more than welcome to keep taking part in the community too, we are a lovely bunch and I'm sure you'll find plenty to get involved with. I’m hopeful that you’ll find it to be a positive outlet. Feel free to have a look around and get involved wherever you’d like 😊 I have included below a few of the pages I’d recommend having a look through to get used to things:
    • The virtual coffee lounge which is one of our categories, in which we play games and talk about general subjects such as hobbies and interests
    • The recent discussions page, which shows an overview of everything happening across the community
    • The categories page, which shows a full list of discussion groups on the community

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  • lisa86
    lisa86 Community member Posts: 18 Connected
    Thank you for your help.
    my relationship with
    my mum has always been difficult especially as she is pretty uncommunicative most of the time, and is old fashioned, stoic  and doesn’t deal emotions, that’s how she was brought up.
    I will have a look round the website again tomorrow 
  • lisa86
    lisa86 Community member Posts: 18 Connected
    Thank you,
    I have recently finished a course of mental health support with pennine healthcare which is part of healthy minds I think. It just ended at the worst possible time when I have so much to deal with.
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,983 Disability Gamechanger
    Please remember we are here for you too @lisa86. Please don't hesitate to let us know if you wish to talk about anything or are looking for a particular type of support.

    Hoping things get better for you soon. One of my favourite quotes is "the sunshine is always there, it's just hidden behind the clouds sometimes"  <3
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  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,503 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @lisa86 :) How have things been since we last spoke with you about this? 

    I'd echo what teddybear12 said around perhaps asking if it'd be possible to have some more sessions. Would you feel able to do that? 
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