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September was not a good month for me.Migration and all the complications that followed.Then I decided to apply for pip and the past 3 months I've been living on hope that I could get what I deserve.Now that has also come to a negative outcome.I am feeling in a very negative frame of mind which is not the best situation for me to be in as I'm the only person in my sons life.Im not saying I'm suicidal.But sometimes you try your best everyday and you sit down and realise you actually have absolutely no quality of life.Living in pain with no friends or family other than a son with special needs and this could go on for years.I have unfortunately the words that I've read from the pip report have had a very negative affect on me.so the question I ask myself now is will pip have fixed things?.I really don't know but now I feel absolutely worthless.I hope anyone else that goes through this process has support and atleast friends or a family member
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Sorry to hear your story did pip explain there reason....as I failed to get it first time around
Then this year I decided to try again and Lucking was Awarded it
Maybe try Again or Appeal against the Decision
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Hi @Jane315STARX I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. Please never think you are absolutely worthless, you are not. Have you thought of doing an MR for PIP there are lots of members on the forum that would be happy to offer advice on this.
Try not to take the words on the PIP report to heart. It can be very disappointing when you get turned down on the first try.
I am sure you are the best mum doing your very best for your son.
We are here for you anytime you want to chat or even just to listen if you want to rant.
The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of them all. ( The Emperor in Mulan).
Please take care of yourself.
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Basically because I can can get dressed by myself and cook for myself.and haven't seen my psychiatrist in years and took my son on holiday this year ( although I've NEVER taken him on holiday in 14 years.because I can read and understand signs
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What I find staggering is where it says "no evidence of overwhelming distress ".I was so distressed during this telephone assessment and it took nearly 2 hours.I was in tears for most of it.I have a very long history of what they say is serious mental health problems depression and anxiety and was sectioned many years ago.I have not felt this depressed since then.But it wasn't the depression that led me to do the pip so I'm actually worse now than I started.When I was this ill before I didn't have a child who was completely dependent on me.now i feel it's a very dangerous situation as I am unstable in the respect that I am extremely depressed
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I'm in the same position re just having my son and PIP dismissing my needs. It is soul destroying. I have to work really hard not to let it drag me all the way under.
I asked for a MR and supposedly will have a tribunal at some point but I doubt I will be able to go through with it. I haven't even been able to read their report and haven't sent them anything. I know I should get help but the thought of the battle for it just pushes me further down:(
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Thank you BlueBell21
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I never asked for the report . I had enough to go off the result and brief reasons they gave to think I’m not having this I’m telling the truth this is my life and how I’ve lived for 2 decades Im
Fighting it . I was awarded 6 pnts 2 short of an award . I’m one of the last people who would have even done this at all years ago . But im getting older and things are getting worse . I’m going through with this . I’ve asked for a mandatory reconsideration . Taking it one day at a time . I will not let it dominate my thoughts I don’t know where my strength has come from but I’m
Going with it . Can you get an advisor to help
You with it all?
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I see you have been given some good advice regarding MR on another thread @Jane315STARX You really should if you can do this.
Take care.
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@bookrabbit I spent all last night writing and then rewriting a mandatory reconsideration letter.My table was covered in tears.It has taken me back years.I have tried to end my life before over 20 years ago and it wasn't till September this year when I had those negative thoughts.Its absolutely terrifying knowing that decisions impact another person's life.What I mean by that is the words written cut so raw on the page that are directly about me but are so untrue.I am wondering how I could've represented myself so badly over the phone.But then ask myself Is this all happening for a reason to a bigger picture?.Then I start losing a sense of reality and this is when it's gets worrying
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Dendoo I didn't ask for the report it just came in the post as a Decision and I don't know any advisors
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would you be able to seek help via a mental health team. You need some support either way -citizens advice can also help with this.
years ago I was lowered and cit advice said they hadn’t even considered medical evidence.
you are entitled to have a holiday and for them to focus on that is disgusting.
please either re apply or ask for review (very traumatic though it is) and don’t forget we are be hind you and you can call Samaritans 24/7 tooHuge hugs to you and your son
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Thank you so much for these extremely kind words.I think I am going to have to get a grip of my situation for the sake of my son before I get worse which is a big possibility.As I write now I'm thinking logically and I always try and do what is best for him.Its just when I will get the next chance as its the holidays.But I will have sort it out somehow as there is no other choice.Perhaps they can offer some wise words
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2016 I felt the same after pip assessment and the reasons for refusing I went through every emotion some of what she said was very personal about my appearance unfortunately they do this to thousands trying to put people of MR as it is extremely stressful I put a complaint in well basically I lost the plot none of us hardly get to see psychiatrist many people with disabilities go on holiday I'm so sorry and angry they do this to people it's a battle but one worth fighting you can get all medical information from doctors it's called SARS form they can go back years I put my pip form in July just put medical notes I did get letter from doctor it says not too but I did I haven't seen psychiatrist in years with migration and pip you must be mentally physically exhausted don't let the DWP get you down easier said than done I know very cruel system at times are you going to appeal I hope you find some peace as the days go on x
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This has taken me to a place where I didn't want to be in so many ways.Your kind words really do mean so much.I feel ridiculously vengeful.I have the assessors details from this report and so it would be quite easy for me to literally write my thoughts directly to her.But that doesn't achieve anything.I just can't believe that what I have been reading else where IS actually true and that the assessor I had has lied.There are bits that I do obviously agree with.I told the truth about absolutely everything and this is where I am.I know someone who has lied about everything and now has an award.So I'm the fool.y
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Can I just ask you all one thing.I am planning on going to my g.p tomorrow.I don't know if they already know if I applied for pip as the assessor said in her report "your antidepressants have reduced since your last assessment".Well my last assessment was over 15 years ago anyway but the only way she could know surely is by speaking to my GP about my medication?
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It’s really tough and when pip dismisses the issues you have it can send you on a downward spiral. It did me. I asked for the report and where necessary challenged each point explaining fully why. Fortunately I was then eligible.
It might be worth seeking advice from citizens advice, not only for benefits etc for yourself but also any additional help you can get for your son. Are there groups you or he can join to give you both space, advisors, support and hopefully friendships?1 -
Thank you.Great advice x
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PIP was only introduced in 2013 so that assessment couldn't have been for this. Was it for another benefit, maybe a work capability assessment? They may get information from that, although they are different benefits they do sometimes look for information from that.
Or have you applied for PIP in the past? even if it was several years ago they can and do look back at previous assessments. This is the reason why reapplying isn't always the answer and challenging the decision is always much better.
They very rarely contact anyone for any evidence so no one should rely on them doing that. I've been claiming PIP for 11 years and have had quite a few reviews in that time and they've never contacted anyone for any evidence for my claims.
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I had dla in 2017 that's the only thingbI can think of it related to.in terms of my medication it's been increased in other things but the anti depressants I chose to de crease from 2022 according to what I've checked myself
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The report says I made my decision using information including details of any treatment,medication,test results and symptoms
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