How is your day going?

I've had a bit of a stressful day, my mum who is a very fit 74yr old, tries to come for a couple of hours on Tuesday's with my niece, to basically sort me and my house out. I have a number of physical and mental health difficulties, my two sons both have Neurodivergent's and other health issues. I really appreciate my mum coming and everything she does for us, but I get so stressed the day before they come, i can't sleep, im trying to do everything so she is pleased when she arrives, but there is always something she is critical about, the dust in bedrooms, my bathroom, which is covered in black mould and broken floor tiles, for which I'm with a solicitor for the past 2yrs, taking my local council to court as they won't do repairs. Today I was sorting out our clothes out of the dryer, that I put in to separate piles, she took them off me mixing both of my son's clothes together, I pointed out that she now had a mixed pile, she wagged her finger at me, clenching her teeth telling me she knew that, I said that they moan as they get each other's washing. She went mad still wagging her finger at me, in front of my carer and neice, I asked her not to point her finger at me that I'm 57 and she wouldn't have put up with anyone doing it to her. She said she was going she'd had enough, I told her she didn't need to come every Tuesday we manage as best we can. She stayed and I sort of apologised, and said thank you for all of her help. My oldest son came down after she left unaware of what had happened, he said nan had gave him my other son's washing mixed with his. I don't know whether to laugh or cry, sorry for such a long rant 😅 🙃

@Elvisdog and @Catherine21 I hear you and sorry you had to endure that elvisdog. You were brilliant asserting yourself and telling her not to point at you. I had a very toxic dad.

I couldn't bear the way he put me down and was cruel when my mum got Alzheimers. After mums funeral I left, no big announcement and havent seen him since 5 years now.

When we were at registrar appointment there was a form question on parent name address etc and if they were still living. There wasn't a tick box for don't know so I picked yes and had a giggle internally.

Black humour is the way I deal with family 😊

Family relationship is complicated. But I think they do it because they know you do not like it. Just follow suit. Play along. If you are ignoring their critique or not paying attention they will stop and think of something else . I have family who always tried to wind me up.. I am sorry but at times you we have to be strong. Don't allow anyone to make you feel small. Respect is mutual . And If they don't...it does not matter the other party are your parents. It works with other people. I remember a case a person trying to degrade me . I said to him . Tell me something I do not know.. and he stopped. .. or say you so so smart . I do not know .. but don't show frustration because is what they want. Some people love to see the other side suffering frustrated etc... and sadly sometimes it is your own family. Sorry for the long message.

Morning all.

I've started my Christmas shopping.

Thank you

I'm still in pain

Had restless sleep

I can't do the bank statements until this infection gone

I can't keep off the loo

Least I have til the 10th

How long do they take to cone back to you after you submit them

I'm not sure how long they take to get back to you @Amberpearl ,it sounds like it should be pretty straightforward in your case so hopefully not too long.

Il try to send them at the weekend. Once this infection has gone

Hi everyone

@Teigr I must admit I got present bags and labels in the January sales!

@Lou67 enjoy your morning with wee Lottie. I can't wait for a grandchild to spoil.

@Amberpearl hope the antibiotics kick in and you feel a bit better today

Got wedding cake booked this morning. I don't have teigrs skills so I outsourced it 😊

Sometimes they're just needed aren't they? 🤗