Mental health

Nightcity

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/930468#Comment_930468

no worries, Hope you can get the peace and confirmation of a diagnosis.

if there's any other questions just ask.

Strawberry1

Thank you @Nightcity . I really appreciate your help 🙏. I don't know how much longer the wait will be hopefully not much longer. Thank you again.

Nightcity

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/930483#Comment_930483

my pleasure

WhatThe

Strawberry, you mention clumsy. Oh yes, never more so than when I'm tired in the evenings - I drop things and bump into things any time of day though! As I'd rather fumble around in the dark than put lights on, I once managed to toss a favourite mug into the bathroom as I was passing and carry a tissue into the kitchen…🤣

Strawberry1

Bless you @WhatThe . Im definitely clumsy very much so .

Bluebell21

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/930472#Comment_930472

I will. Thank you @Strawberry1

Strawberry1

Your welcome @Bluebell21

WhatThe

🍓 what your other half thinks of your son must be incredibly hurtful. Your son is a part of you and belongs in your life.

The old man sounds resentful and insecure. You're not the problem!

Nightcity

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/930572#Comment_930572

this!

Strawberry1

It is not very good to hear @WhatThe . I am very grateful for your kindness 🙏 ❤️. Thank you.

Strawberry1

I had to have a lie down for a while. I felt really tired.

Bluebell21

I hope after a rest you will feel a bit better @Strawberry1 Take care.

WhatThe

I didn't mean to be blunt. It's only an opinion and I don't even know the guy! I speak as someone who disappointed everyone.

You can't change who you are nor can your son change who he is. Your OH may not understand the reset you are going through but that doesn't make him bad. It's just not good that you feel unsupported at home.

It is not selfish to be thinking about yourself but hard for us to do at the best of times. Caring for others is much easier don't you think?

Strawberry1

Hi @WhatThe , your absolutely fine you haven't been blunt . I agree with what you said . My other half just says my son is a loser. Be right back

Strawberry1

Hi @WhatThe , it's all because my son is different from my other half and he just sees him as a nuisance. No one is perfect. Neither is my other half but sometimes he thinks he is . I'm trying to break things down little by little. I am grateful for you chatting with me . Your a real gem 💎.

WhatThe

Of course his own son is more like him so that's different..

You're a blended family and I have no experience of that. Little by little sounds exactly right 😊 you have support here in the meantime 💜

Strawberry1

Yes he has a son of his own from a previous marriage. The sun shines out of that one apparently lol 😆. My son is not my other half's. Looking down on others is a no no in my eyes @WhatThe , i suppose it would be boring if we were all the same but the funny thing is @WhatThe nearly every person that comes on the TV is a rubbish person in my other half's eyes . I do feel rather embarrassed talking about this but I am very grateful 🙏. You are a real gem 💎 someone who I look up too . Im sorry about this but I am very grateful. Thank you 😊.

WhatThe

I recognise that behaviour and those attitudes in family members past and present 😐️

Strawberry1

I can't thank you enough @WhatThe , I'm sorry you have come across people similar. Thank you 😊

WhatThe

The mother-and-son relationship is different.

My mum was particularly protective of my brother which I didn't like or understand growing up (but do now). Tight as adults. I had to accept it but didn't like it.

Your son needs to be allowed to visit you without any tension or drama. That tension can permeate brick walls and TV noise!