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  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,670 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/930572#Comment_930572

    this!

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    It is not very good to hear @WhatThe . I am very grateful for your kindness 🙏 ❤️. Thank you.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    I had to have a lie down for a while. I felt really tired.

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Online Community Member Posts: 5,565 Championing

    I hope after a rest you will feel a bit better @Strawberry1 Take care.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,677 Championing
    edited October 25

    I didn't mean to be blunt. It's only an opinion and I don't even know the guy! I speak as someone who disappointed everyone.

    You can't change who you are nor can your son change who he is. Your OH may not understand the reset you are going through but that doesn't make him bad. It's just not good that you feel unsupported at home.

    It is not selfish to be thinking about yourself but hard for us to do at the best of times. Caring for others is much easier don't you think?

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    Hi @WhatThe , your absolutely fine you haven't been blunt . I agree with what you said . My other half just says my son is a loser. Be right back

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    Hi @WhatThe , it's all because my son is different from my other half and he just sees him as a nuisance. No one is perfect. Neither is my other half but sometimes he thinks he is . I'm trying to break things down little by little. I am grateful for you chatting with me . Your a real gem 💎.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,677 Championing

    Of course his own son is more like him so that's different..

    You're a blended family and I have no experience of that. Little by little sounds exactly right 😊 you have support here in the meantime 💜

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    Yes he has a son of his own from a previous marriage. The sun shines out of that one apparently lol 😆. My son is not my other half's. Looking down on others is a no no in my eyes @WhatThe , i suppose it would be boring if we were all the same but the funny thing is @WhatThe nearly every person that comes on the TV is a rubbish person in my other half's eyes . I do feel rather embarrassed talking about this but I am very grateful 🙏. You are a real gem 💎 someone who I look up too . Im sorry about this but I am very grateful. Thank you 😊.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,677 Championing
    edited October 25

    I recognise that behaviour and those attitudes in family members past and present 😐️

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    I can't thank you enough @WhatThe , I'm sorry you have come across people similar. Thank you 😊

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,677 Championing
    edited October 25

    The mother-and-son relationship is different.

    My mum was particularly protective of my brother which I didn't like or understand growing up (but do now). Tight as adults. I had to accept it but didn't like it.

    Your son needs to be allowed to visit you without any tension or drama. That tension can permeate brick walls and TV noise!

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,677 Championing
    edited October 25

    Ref funny one followed by serious one, here's the funny one..

    😂 me when you popped into a 'debate' to ask "is it me?" 😂

  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,670 Championing
    edited October 25

    I knew someone once who had nothing nice to say about anyone, literally anyone so full of hate and bher behaviour was extremely hot and cold, was frightened to speak half the time.

    every comment was sarcastic,unfair or cruel and it was all about her,her,her

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    Sorry to hear how things were for you @WhatThe . I do wonder sometimes what makes people be like they are . I agree I am not going to push him away. Going to have a bit of time out with my puzzle book I think. Thank you again for all your support you are a diamond 💎. Thank you.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,097 Championing

    Sorry to hear how you was in the know of someone like that @Nightcity. Some people aren't nice at all . Least here there are lots of nice people. I'm going to try and do my puzzle book for a little while. Phone needs to go on charge lol 😆. Chat soon. Take care

  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,670 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/930748#Comment_930748

    have a good weekend, take care.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 2,677 Championing

    I love my puzzles too! So relaxing 😊

  • StodgySquare
    StodgySquare Online Community Member Posts: 100 Contributor

    @Strawberry1 God that's really awful, sorry to be opinionative but that's completely out of line. How dare he speak that way ever to your son! You're obviously incredibly patient and understanding, it's amazing how you can do that but also sounds emotionally draining.

    I have no right to say anything about you and your partner but you deserve respect. ❤

    Sending hugs- ❤

  • StodgySquare
    StodgySquare Online Community Member Posts: 100 Contributor

    Soz for the serious comment, forgot to refresh the page. 😅

    May everyone have a great evening-🌙

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