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  • eeL
    eeL Community member Posts: 279 Empowering

    Hope you're coping Agnia ❤

    Bluebell you're tops - are you ok today? ❤

    Strawberry are you feeling any better hun? I'd fix it if I could ❤

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 2,449 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937577#Comment_937577

    Are you on uc ? If you do get three months of sicknotes that will trigger ub50 form I think it's called apply for esa best to do know before or if it changes also apply for pip hope don't sound bossy I hope your OK today

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,277 Championing

    Hello @eeL , thanks for you kind message. Things are rubbish at the moment. Don't think I will be posting much . Sorry to hear how things are . Please take care of yourself. Put yourself first before work. TAke care 🙂.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,277 Championing

    @Bluebell21 , thanks for your kind post . Please take care of yourself too . Not sure I will be posting much . Becoming sleep deprived at the moment. Very very restless 😕. Look after yourself. Chat again another time. Have a reasonable day.

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Community member Posts: 3,818 Trailblazing
    edited November 8

    Hi @eeL Thank you. I am not too bad. I am so sorry your boss was so nasty. How are you feeling now? It was not the best place for you. Please take care.

    Good morning @Catherine21 I hope you have a good day. Take care.

    Good morning @Strawberry1 Please take care of yourself. We are here for you when you are ready to post. Hugs.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 2,449 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937584#Comment_937584

    Morning bluebell you was right they did get my forms it did take two weeks xx

  • eeL
    eeL Community member Posts: 279 Empowering
    edited November 8

    Catherine21 great to hear from you! How are you getting on my lovely? ❤Thank you for your help.

    I'm on nothing and it's not possible for me to get anything as I have a mortgage. I'm expected to work, it's not possible for me to get help of any kind, all anyone will do is threaten me for money because I've missed bills. I've had this ongoing problem for 25 years. My parents brought me up to 'home own or I'm a waster' (it was the 80s!) so that's what I tried to do. Worst thing I could ever have done, awful situation, the place is falling apart and I can't afford to fix it - I only got running water in the summer! I have no rights and no sympathy because I 'own a property' (I don't, the bank does, and it's virtually uninhabitable, my living standards are worse than a tent - then they'll take it in tax if I manage to pay for it anyway); I'd love ANY of those Political bigwigs to come and stay at mine for a week and then tell me how disabled people should work and stop spongeing. I'm the living proof, IT DOESN'T WORK!! Anyone out there feeling bad about claiming anything - DON'T. If you try to do what they want they disown you anyway. I was offered to register disabled in my twenties for physical reasons rather than the disability I now know I have (so in fact I have two!), but I turned it down because of the stigma and my upbringing being in the same vein as political views - 'stop being pathetic and feeling sorry for yourself and get on with it'. More fool me. I guess I thought I'd manage because I was young and optimistic and I didn't know how cr*p life can be and how much harder it gets with age.

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Community member Posts: 3,818 Trailblazing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937588#Comment_937588

    I am so pleased for you take care.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 2,449 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937583#Comment_937583

    I hope you have a peaceful day x

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 2,449 Championing

    Sorry to hear this you definitely would be entitled to pip dowsnt matter if you have savings you should really look into that why suffer so yes it's a stressful time applying but so worth it we would all guide you through the process as you know poppy ex excellent at giving advice don't suffer so pls think about pip

  • eeL
    eeL Community member Posts: 279 Empowering

    Catherine21 Wouldn't know where to start but thank you so much! You've no idea how much a caring person and some constructive advice means right now. THANK YOU ❤❤

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 2,449 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937605#Comment_937605

    You can apply online now you could get copies of your medical notes through doctors request for a SARS form you can go back years speak to your doctor that's how I ended up claiming I walked out of a job and I knew I wasn't well enough to work I'd look at googling how to apply for pip any questions poppy amazing if you was going to do it really think about it don't suffer alone xx

  • eeL
    eeL Community member Posts: 279 Empowering

    That means SOOO much right now Catherine21 ❤ I did an online 'are you entitled to benefits' assessment last week and it said 'no'. But I will Google PIP and see if it can throw a lifeline. Thanks even just for being there - I have no friends or support network, I only saw people at work (and they were mostly horrible!) so your messages mean alot ❤

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 2,449 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937610#Comment_937610

    Yes definitely pip even if you try for lcw that would be good with that need to put 3 months of sick notes but pip yes definitely

  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Community member Posts: 2,413 Championing

    thanks @Bluebell21 for always caring,hope you're ok.

    hey @eeL bless you, you really do deserve so much better in life.

    This morning mum was awarded LCWRA unexpectedly and also her pip has been enhanced this week, due to how ill I now am and the desperation to live in peace, alongside this helpful development for mum, ss ashamed as I am, I've reluctantly finally accepted the offer for her to look after me, so won't when asked be claiming UC.

    I just can't live my already pointless existence with an axe over my head worrying about white papers and assessments and all the rest of it.

    sorry I'm not around much at the moment I need to get back on track all round, my prostate disease has rocketed off on Wednesday I urinated an insane 27 times, I've asked the GP to consider removing my prostate despite it not being cancer, I think ten years is More than enough.

    hey @Catherine21 @Strawberry1 and @Agnia

    hope you're all hanging in there

    I miss all 5 of you 💜💛

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 8,059 Online Community Team

    Hope you'll be ok @Nightcity please be gentle with yourself!

  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Community member Posts: 2,413 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937675#Comment_937675

    thanks Albus, hope you're ok

  • luvpink
    luvpink Community member Posts: 548 Empowering

    @Nightcity

    So pleased to hear your mum got LCWRA and also had her pip increased.

    That must be a huge relief.

    Very sorry to hear of your struggling with health etc.

    Best wishes and take care.

  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Community member Posts: 2,413 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/937683#Comment_937683

    thanks, hope you're doing ok

  • eeL
    eeL Community member Posts: 279 Empowering

    Hey Nightcity I'm so sorry things are so rough - I hope you can focus on the small positives about the payments. Please don't you EVER be ashamed to need help!!! You would (and do) do the same for any of us and your mum, you are a legend and you give so much, and I know you would give more if you'd been blessed with excellent health and the fact that you haven't been is NOT YOUR FAULT. You owe no shame or apology to anyone for being in a situation life has thrown at you, I'm sure it will make your mum happier to know she can care for you and make sure you're ok. You have each other and the love between and that is a tremendous, strong thing - I wish I had that with MY mother! I think anyone in your position would have had enough of it, but PLEASE, please don't look on your existence as pointless because I am one of many on here for whom life would be far worse without Nightcity in it and you make such a difference even just being here! Look how missed you are when you don't post!! You mean alot to us, you do much to cheer others and support them even putting your own troubles away for those who need a friendly word, and that means there is TOTALLY a point to your existence for so many of us. So you weed 27 times - must be annoying but it says nothing about you as a person or takes anything away from your value in the world or how much we love you. We all have crosses to bear, you more than most, but you are loved at home and here and have so much to give. You're one of life's superstars! And there are too few already.

    Hope the GP can help. As an anxious person I totally get that some decisions are best made just for peace of mind because I'm someone who'd rather have nothing than have something and live under the threat of having it taken away. When I was younger I had a boyfriend who always used to say to me, 'If you don't…..I'll dump you'. After about a month of jumping through hoops, treading on eggshells and lying awake worrying I said, 'I don't want to worry about that all the time so I'M dumping YOU'. I quit my job and I've no idea how to carry on and survive, but at least I'm not going to get shouted at by my a*sehole boss anymore lol Sometimes taking control of a situation feels a relief, even if you're losing out.

    Please come back to us when you've got time and feel able to! You're very much wanted and needed ❤💚

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