How is your day going?

Jimm_Scope

66Mustang said:

I’ve been feeling low today

I’ve been trying hard to improve things for myself and been really optimistic about stuff recently that I should be able to do in the future, nothing crazy just stuff everyone does

It was quite rightfully pointed out that maybe what I want to do won’t work out but now I don’t know what to do

I seem to be “black and white” like to me something is either a great plan or a rubbish one, I can’t grasp that there is a lot of middle ground  

I don’t think there are certain people who by default have no right to happiness or to feel content but maybe that is meant to be my place in society??

Sorry for whinging but I hope someone can help me feel a little better  

I do want to say. Someone said that it won't work out, but is that a 100% certain? If there is an issue can you work around it and still reach the goal?

Sandy_123

@66Mustang you won't know it won't work unless you try it first. Try not to focus on the negatives from other people. 

Lou67

@Teigr
My goodness I didn’t even tho n off that when I read your msg. That is crazy 🤦‍♀️

@66Mustang
Im so sorry you are feeling a bit down. 
@Beaver79 put everything I would’ve put as we see how far you have came, and also see what a great person you are.
You have a lot off compassion and empathy and always giving great advice. 

You have loads off knowledge on different topics which helps lots off people. 
I honestly think a lot off you and class you as a good friend in this forum. 

Please be kind to yourself. ❤️

durhamjaide2001

Good afternoon everyone 

Sandy_123

Afternoon @durhamjaide2001

tgTg

hi everyone - i joined last week and this looks like a good thread to chat on : my day is alright. i was hoping for sun all day - its my beagle's birthday today - so having a raincheck on the cake 🎂 to tomorrow ☀️

Sandy_123

Hi @tgTg welcome to the forum
We've had a lovely  day here weatherwise

Grinchy

evening all, had a good few days sleepwise, sleeping through, we went out for a drive today which was nice, now online browsing, take care all xx

66Mustang

Thanks @Lou67 @Jimm_Scope @Sandy_123 for the posts and @Beaver79 as well for posting on my other thread

Jimm, no one explicitly told me stuff won't work out, I think it's just people trying to be realistic if I'm honest

However I kind of got the impression that maybe some people are trying to tell me, as gently as possible I have to grant, that being lonely and upset is how I'm "meant" to be for the rest of my life - but I think surely everyone has the right to happiness and content?? Unless they have committed some kind of atrocity  

I wonder if maybe some people, who are worse off than me, have disabilities that are only going to get worse not better - and it's hard to comprehend getting "better" at all, and maybe they had to develop the mindset "accept what you have"?? Mine is kind of the opposite way round - I started off super bad and I guess I will (and am) get(ting) better in time - and I totally accept that just because of that I am really lucky in some ways!!

Just some random thoughts, my head is kinda in a muddle at the moment  

Lou67

@66Mustang
If you want to meet someone in the future I’m sure if you explore your options you’ll meet someone when your least expecting it.
Off course you deserve happiness and contentment In your life, and whoever you meet will be lucky to have you.

Im definitely not just saying this to be nice I’m saying it because I truly believe it.😊

Lou67

I hope everyone has a nice night. 

I’ve just had a nice relaxing bath, and just going to watch some telly.

@tgTg
Hello and welcome and Happy Birthday 🥳 to your beagle, enjoy the birthday cake tomorrow.

@Grinchy
Glad you’ve slept well the past few days and enjoyed a nice drive today.

❤️

66Mustang

Thanks @Lou67 that really means a lot I wish there was some way to do something positive for you in return

I have just been for a drive too and had a chat with my parents as well and I’m feeling a little better now

I’m going to go to bed soon but I hope everyone has a good sleep

Lou67

@66Mustang
Im glad your feeling a bit better, you do enough for me with your friendship and good advice. 

I hope you sleep well.

❤️

Sandy_123

I echo @Lou67 words @66Mustang I'm glad your feeling better tho now. Tomorrow is another day to make a new start 

66Mustang

Hi everyone, I'm feeling a little bit better today

I really appreciate the kind words that people sent to me yesterday, it helped me a lot

@Ada don't be sorry for not coming on all the time, I do that too I think I think it's normal to do that, and yes you are missed but don't make that pressure you into coming on when you don't feel up to it  

It looks like I'm the first one on this thread this morning for a change  

I hope everyone has a good day and a nice 4 day week for those who are working

rubin16

Morning everyone, Sorry I wasn't on much yesterday ended up going cleveleys yesterday with my dad and nan and was so tired when I got back. It completley wore me out as not done much the past few weeks with being ill.

@66Mustang Sorry to find out you were feeling low yesterday. I get really low moments sometimes too as its my dream to be able to work and live a normal life with a family one day and sometimes I feel like I am wasting my life away as I'm getting older now (33). Its just everytime I try make a positive step forward my health declines and I end up in hospital or unwell again. I've been stuck in the same cycle now for over 15 years and sometimes it drives me mad, especially when I see other people and old classmates be so successful and live life to the full on social media. Sometimes I feel like whats the point anymore, but each time I try stay positive and never let go of my dreams, I don't want to ever give up on myself and you shouldn't either. As others have said you are a really nice guy with alot to offer and we both need to find our way in this world and reach our potential even if it takes us longer to get there, we will get there eventually. Keep your chin up mate.

Amberpearl

Morning all

I was up a fair bit last night 
Miserable morning 
Cloudy.sea mist
Only 10 degrees 

66Mustang

Hi @rubin16

Thanks, it sounds like you can relate a lot, I think you probably have more struggles than me too because you have physical stuff to contend with as well so I think you are doing really well

I can totally agree about feeling like we are wasting life but I guess the best things are worth waiting and working for - if something is free (whether "free" means zero financial or indeed zero emotional investment) it's often not worth having in the first place ... I do think I'll get there in the end and I think you will too, just my opinion but you seem like such a nice person and really interesting and not at all malicious

One piece of advice I would give, if it helps you - people say don't compare with others which I agree with but it's hard sometimes - but putting that aside I would definitely say, if you ARE going to compare yourself, don't use social media as a benchmark because people often just post the best bits on social media!!

I would actually ask yourself ... if someone is REALLY living the dream, would they even have time to post random pictures on social media in the first place??  I used to know a very very interesting man who had lived all over the world, he had been wealthy, lost it again, then got it back, he was living (what some people may call) the dream ... he went on FaceBook maybe once a month!!! The opposite to that, people I know who use FaceBook for hours a day, actually have the most dreary lives if I am being really honest  

Thanks for the words of encouragement though, I really appreciate them and just hope the little bit I can give back maybe will help you a little as well

Sandy_123

Morning @66Mustang glad your feeling brighter 
@ada morning it's good to have you time sometimes 
Glad you had a good time @rubin16

It's lovely and sunny here today 

66Mustang

Sorry to go on @rubin16 but one more thing I would say is "living life to the full" or "living the dream" is relative to an individual

I see lots of people who are doing stuff that floats their boat, like they have lots of money, they are really popular, find partners and friends easily and stuff

Now if they are happy with that then I am happy for them...but that's not what I want, I just want a couple of good friends and a partner who all like me (and I like them back) for genuine reasons, not because of money or good looks and stuff

So I am really happy for them as it floats their boat, but I have no reason to feel jealous if that makes sense??

We actually have some really lovely neighbours who rent the house next door - they are a couple, same age as me, and have some anxiety/mental health issues as well, and don't seem to have lots of money ... they have each other and are really happy though, and I'm probably more jealous of them than anyone else I know