How is your day going?

Sandy_123

Hi @Marydoll5 sorry you've been upset, I think they are asking too much from your husband. I would talk to them and tell them, as they may not understand  how difficult it is for you both

66Mustang

@Sandy_123 yeah unfortunately they are often out in the sticks aren't they so hard to get to without a car.

@Marydoll5 sorry to hear they have been not understanding, I agree it sounds like they are asking too much, families are often unreasonable I think, it's not uncommon, I agree try talking to them but it may be you just have to grin and bear it

Sandy_123

They are @66Mustang some farmers markets about my daughter goes to one in London which she says is really good

66Mustang

@Sandy_123 that's interesting, I wouldn't have thought there would be stuff like that in London, thought it was more of a country thing. We don't live far from London but we rarely go so don't know it too well. Maybe will have to go have a look one day

Sandy_123

Yeah I'm due a visit to London soon they are in Paris for the weekend at the moment 

66Mustang

I hope you enjoy London, do you like doing anything particular when you are there? And, wow lucky them

I have never been to Paris, my Mum went literally the week before Notre Dame burnt down, she was lucky to see it.

Marydoll5

@Sandy_123 and @66Mustang thanks. He can't do a thing for himself and I'm struggling as it is and noone has helped. I just get with it. 

I can't take much more physically or mentally 😪.  I'm not superwoman and no other partners are being asked to do anything. 

It's indirectly asking me as they all know he can't drive and is debilitated badly. 

On happier note I order my meat from a farm shop and it's delivered. Bit more expensive but always superb quality 👌 

Sandy_123

Oh wow she was very lucky I think they are rebuilding it. I've been to Disney Paris many years ago I'm not a fan of Paris to be honest 
Now a days I go to chill out at my daughters altho London is very busy and it's hard to relax.

Sandy_123

@Marydoll5 if others can do it then put your foot down. Don't be taken advantage of. 

Marydoll5

@Sandy_123 you are right.  I've been through hell this past year as OH is so very seriously ill.  I can't get over the cheek as I have been left to it.

These are his brothers and sisters. I had to cope with his hidden alcoholism and then medical issues and it was hard not to walk away. 

He has been sober 7 months and is getting help but I feel trapped as a carer now which I didn't set out to be ....I feel I don't have a partner now. Its so hard . Sorry I'll stop complaining now

Jimm_Scope

Hi @Marydoll5, I'm sorry to hear about your current struggles. I assume this isn't something a friend can do either? Is it possible to explain to them about you and your partners situation quite forthright, about how you aren't in a place to take on more just now? I know that can be a scary topic to bring up, is there anyone at all in the wider family who you feel most comfortable talking to it about maybe?

Lou67

@Marydoll5
Sorry your upset over this, I agree with others you have enough going on.

I would just say I’m sorry but all my times taken up helping my husband otherwise I’d gladly help.
And as you don’t drive it’s just not possible.

@Beaver79  
Oh I’m just feeling a bit uncomfortable I think I pushed myself to quick, just taking it easy now.

@Sandy_123
Hows your chest feeling.

@66Mustang
Oh glad you got some nice treats.

❤️

Sandy_123

Definitely take it easy now @Lou67 give yourself time to heal. Hopefully the biotics will kick in soon.
Feels a bit worse today but I'm used to bad chests so will carry on with my inhalers. 
Had a message off drs come through asking me to rate their services. I actually said out loud, oh you really don't want that rating from me lol

Marydoll5

@Jimm_Scope and @Lou67 they are fully aware of our situation.  OH was in hospital 9 weeks with stroke, liver and neurology issues and it didn't look like he would make it.

I drive and all my time is taken getting him to appointments, shopping etc, making meals and with my back pain and using a rollator it's really hard. 

They just want money from house sale and we have no interest as I want to get him through life saving brain surgery and there will be a recovery period too. 

Thanks for listening. I've noone to let off steam to

Marydoll5

@Lou67 please rest up. I'm great at giving advice and not taking it but you deserve to take it easy. You've been through a lot. 

Sandy_123

It really sounds very hard your situation @Marydoll5 you need help with your husband from carers get in touch with social services who can assess the situation. 

Lou67

@Marydoll5
Oh sorry I read it wrong about you driving.
You have enough to deal with I think the advice Sandy gave about  getting in touch with Social Services regarding carers would be a massive help to you.

Thank you yes I’m taking it easy now.

@Sandy_123
Oh Sandy that’s such a shame you shouldn’t have to cope just because you are used to chest infections 🤦‍♀️
Omg it’s a joke a review after the way you were dealt with.
I got one from my Housing Association after the loft was eventually cleaned out asking for one. 

I think I took a screenshot off what I sent, I will look for it and show you. They are crazy to have asked 😂

Jimm_Scope

Have you contacted your local authority about seeing if you can get support in caring for him @Marydoll5 ? You can ask for Respite Care, to help lessen the burden on you. The Local Authority could also see if there are adaptations they can help install into your home to help him get around.

Sandy_123

Ooo I can imaging what your response was @Lou67 lol 

Lou67

@Sandy_123
I can’t find it but I think it’ll be the last they ask for a review 😂