How is your day going?

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  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 5,293 Online Community Team
    I got a lot of house cleaning done and organised the garden for the upcoming planting season! I also got some much needed rest done too though.
  • Teigr
    Teigr Community member Posts: 4,547 Championing
    See you later @Ada.

    The mist is even thicker now,I can't see our back gates.
  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 5,293 Online Community Team
    Have a good time @Ada! I didn't see your second post, I must have been writing my previous post at the time :p 
    @Teigr oooh, that is quite the mist/fog it sounds like. I've always found fog quite nice, during the day only, and not when driving. At night it's so eerie and when driving fog makes me anxious. I'm always worried someone won't have their rear fog lights on and I might not see them until it's too late.
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    edited February 3
    Afternoon  everyone @ada
    hope your leg is getting better @Lou67
    it's clear here @teigr
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community member Posts: 14,985 Championing
    We just got back from our dog walk and also we took a trip to the farm shop and I purchased some nice treats... :yum:

    @Jimm_Scope I don't like to lecture but driving is my passion area ... the golden rule is that you should always drive only so fast that you are able to completely stop in the distance you can see - that includes fog, so if you are on a 60mph speed limit road and you can only see 10 yards in front of you that may mean it's appropriate to drive at 25mph.

    The bonus is if you follow that rule your anxiety should be eliminated because the possibility of not being able to stop in time is eliminated.
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    edited February 3
    Tasty treats from the farm shop @66Mustang we have a few farm shops near me but because I don't drive I never get to go. One does deliver but they dont put prices on the products 
  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community member Posts: 585 Championing
    Hi scopicles. I've been quiet the last few days. Been very weepy and upset at lack of life in general. 

    To cap it off Mr Mary doll family really hurt me. They are selling parental home but it fell through as so much work is needed.

    My OH can't help and it was suggested he could open and close up for workers. He can't drive waiting on brain surgery so that means me on top of everything else.

    The house is empty and it's a journey to get there and back. Noone helped us and its nothing to do with me. What do I do? 😪
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    Hi @Marydoll5 sorry you've been upset, I think they are asking too much from your husband. I would talk to them and tell them, as they may not understand  how difficult it is for you both
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community member Posts: 14,985 Championing
    @Sandy_123 yeah unfortunately they are often out in the sticks aren't they so hard to get to without a car. :neutral:

    @Marydoll5 sorry to hear they have been not understanding, I agree it sounds like they are asking too much, families are often unreasonable I think, it's not uncommon, I agree try talking to them but it may be you just have to grin and bear it :neutral:
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    They are @66Mustang some farmers markets about my daughter goes to one in London which she says is really good
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community member Posts: 14,985 Championing
    @Sandy_123 that's interesting, I wouldn't have thought there would be stuff like that in London, thought it was more of a country thing. We don't live far from London but we rarely go so don't know it too well. Maybe will have to go have a look one day :)
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    Yeah I'm due a visit to London soon they are in Paris for the weekend at the moment 
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community member Posts: 14,985 Championing
    I hope you enjoy London, do you like doing anything particular when you are there? And, wow lucky them :blush:

    I have never been to Paris, my Mum went literally the week before Notre Dame burnt down, she was lucky to see it.
  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community member Posts: 585 Championing
    @Sandy_123 and @66Mustang thanks. He can't do a thing for himself and I'm struggling as it is and noone has helped. I just get with it. 

    I can't take much more physically or mentally 😪.  I'm not superwoman and no other partners are being asked to do anything. 

    It's indirectly asking me as they all know he can't drive and is debilitated badly. 

    On happier note I order my meat from a farm shop and it's delivered. Bit more expensive but always superb quality 👌 
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    Oh wow she was very lucky I think they are rebuilding it. I've been to Disney Paris many years ago I'm not a fan of Paris to be honest 
    Now a days I go to chill out at my daughters altho London is very busy and it's hard to relax.
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    @Marydoll5 if others can do it then put your foot down. Don't be taken advantage of. 
  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community member Posts: 585 Championing
    @Sandy_123 you are right.  I've been through hell this past year as OH is so very seriously ill.  I can't get over the cheek as I have been left to it.

    These are his brothers and sisters. I had to cope with his hidden alcoholism and then medical issues and it was hard not to walk away. 

    He has been sober 7 months and is getting help but I feel trapped as a carer now which I didn't set out to be ....I feel I don't have a partner now. Its so hard . Sorry I'll stop complaining now
  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 5,293 Online Community Team
    Hi @Marydoll5, I'm sorry to hear about your current struggles. I assume this isn't something a friend can do either? Is it possible to explain to them about you and your partners situation quite forthright, about how you aren't in a place to take on more just now? I know that can be a scary topic to bring up, is there anyone at all in the wider family who you feel most comfortable talking to it about maybe?
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Community member Posts: 8,693 Championing

    @Marydoll5
    Sorry your upset over this, I agree with others you have enough going on.
    I would just say I’m sorry but all my times taken up helping my husband otherwise I’d gladly help.
    And as you don’t drive it’s just not possible.

    @Beaver79  
    Oh I’m just feeling a bit uncomfortable I think I pushed myself to quick, just taking it easy now.

    @Sandy_123
    Hows your chest feeling.

    @66Mustang
    Oh glad you got some nice treats.

    ❤️
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,750 Championing
    Definitely take it easy now @Lou67 give yourself time to heal. Hopefully the biotics will kick in soon.
    Feels a bit worse today but I'm used to bad chests so will carry on with my inhalers. 
    Had a message off drs come through asking me to rate their services. I actually said out loud, oh you really don't want that rating from me lol