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Coping with stress, low mood and isolation – a support thread

Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
edited January 21 in Mental health issues

What is this thread about?

We realise these are particularly difficult times for all who visit Scope’s online community.  The impact of covid-19 has been far reaching, not least emotionally, as we all cope and ‘muddle through’ each day the best we can.   

As a means of support, the Community Team have compiled a list of resources on this thread to help with any feelings of isolation, stress, and low mood you might be experiencing.  These are not intended to substitute professional help and we recommend contacting your GP if troubling feelings persist.  Equally, should you ever believe your welfare is in danger, make sure to call 999 and ask for the relevant emergency services.

This list is not exhaustive and will be added to regularly so please do keep checking back.  Also, if our lovely members have any other helpful links or ideas, feel free to drop them in the comments section below.  

As ever, if you want to talk about your individual situation - we are here to listen.  Don't be afraid to make a post and ask for help.

General coronavirus support

Mental health

Apps

Exercise

Socialising/loneliness

Education/learning, work, and volunteering

Money

Parenting

Specific impairments

Emergency help


Stay safe everyone and remember we are here to support you though this  <3
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  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 3,857 Disability Gamechanger
    Nice thread idea. I haven’t posted this before because I thought it would attract negative comments / opinions but I think this is hopefully the place where I can do it without judgement

    I am really struggling with not being able to go out for a drive and also struggling to understand why I’m not allowed to do so.

    I have obsessive thoughts which get really bad when I’m stuck in the house - I need to get out the house every day. Luckily we have a dog so I have an “excuse” to go for a walk each day but this often isn’t enough and going for a drive really helps my mental health.

    All I want to do is get in the car, go for a drive without getting out, and come home again.

    - No one will be in the car except people from my household
    - My car is on my drive so I don’t mix with anyone on the way to the car
    - I won’t get out of the car at any point so won’t mix with anyone

    I don’t see how doing this will spread Covid to lots of people but I am following the rules anyway!
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
    @66Mustang Thank you for opening up and telling us how you are feeling.  There's absolutely no judgement and I completely 'get' how you feel.  I know from our interactions on the community and seeing your posts, how important motoring is to you, and it must feel like a loss that you are slowly adjusting to.

    It's great that you have your dog to take for walks and I'd recommend keeping that up.  As for the obsessive thoughts, does listening to a podcast or watching tv/films interrupt and distract you from these?  Does anything tend to block them out?  I know I personally enjoy running as a way of switching off, but am lucky in that i) I don't have any mobility impairments and ii) I actually enjoy it  :D - Could a new hobby or exercise routine work for you, I wonder, in the interim?  
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  • Wini1960Wini1960 Member Posts: 118 Pioneering
    [email protected] Hi i know exactly how you feel. I like to knit so ive turned iit nto a business. Maybe if you can find something that you are passionate about that could take the place of the motoring for the interim, might help. This is something that is beyond our control but everything is subject to change. We will get through this. I wish you the best going forward in 2021.🙂
  • woodbinewoodbine Member Posts: 2,313 Disability Gamechanger
    @66Mustang sorry to hear you feel as you do, fingers crossed that lockdown doesn't last too long and you can get back to doing what you enjoy most.
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 3,857 Disability Gamechanger
    @Cher_Scope @Wini1960 @woodbine many thanks for the supportive posts, I really appreciate it and they mean a lot to me.

    Cher_scope - Thanks for the tips. I’ve found those things to help a little bit to drown out the thoughts. As for the exercise, I actually want to do some form of exercise that is more vigorous than walking and like you I’m lucky not to have any mobility impairments, but this is not something I am able to do right now due to my psychological issues. I am working towards it though with mental health professionals. I know we are getting back to driving again haha but I have aspirations in future to get a Land Rover and a mountain bike and take the bike to places for a bike ride :)

    Wini1960 - that’s great you have turned your hobby into a business. I hope you are doing well and wish you the best of luck with it going forward!

    Woodbine - many thanks for the kind words. Hopefully things will return to normal soon or even partly normal. I realise I could be in a worse position so I am grateful for that, was just having a bit of a moan haha!
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
    @66Mustang It's good to hear you are working towards your goal with the help of mental health practitioners   :)   I hope things go okay.  How are you feeling today?  
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  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 3,857 Disability Gamechanger
    @Cher_Scope I’m feeling not too bad today, thanks for asking :) I have a new support worker working with me and he seems to be really eager to help, not just to tick boxes if that makes sense, and he’s already suggested some really helpful stuff. 
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 6,391 Disability Gamechanger
    Thanks for sharing and putting all the info in one place .

    Coming in here helps keep me occupied lockdown isn’t too bad for me as I only go out for shopping anyway though we did used to go to cinema or out to eat .

    It’s also a bonus as my son is home though home schooling can be a challenge 

    @66Mustang sorry you are finding it hard not driving I know it’s no substitute but do you play any driving games on a console . Or could you volunteer in the community to maybe shop and deliver to others 
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 3,857 Disability Gamechanger
    edited January 10
    @janer1967

    I agree with you about the forum being a good time occupier and good to combat loneliness as well

    Thank you for the suggestion, I hadn’t thought of driving games actually! I don’t have a console but will have a look for some driving games on the iPad to see if they are any good :)

    We currently do help a few neighbours with their shopping but we tend to do it at the same time as our own shopping to keep the risks down if that makes sense 
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,397 Disability Gamechanger
    Another perhaps odd thought I had @66Mustang - would you like to try going for a 'slow' drive with Google maps? You might look at some of your favourite roads, or explore somewhere new, which you might visit later when able to go for a drive again.....something to look forward to, perhaps. :)
    Hi @Cher_Scope - some of the links above don't work; I don't know if you knew.
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,397 Disability Gamechanger
    Just to add that I also find this a great resource, &, as mentioned above, so helpful to have all the info in one place. However, personally I think it's a bit of a wasted opportunity to just have this in the 'Mental Health issues' group, as there are links to other disorders such as CP, & I feel it would benefit a lot of people who are feeling isolated at the moment who may not have mental health problems. What do others think? :)
    Btw @Cher_Scope @Ross_Scope or @Tori_Scope the 3 links mentioned above still don't work. Please would you help, thank you.
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 3,857 Disability Gamechanger
    chiarieds said:
    Another perhaps odd thought I had @66Mustang - would you like to try going for a 'slow' drive with Google maps? You might look at some of your favourite roads, or explore somewhere new, which you might visit later when able to go for a drive again.....something to look forward to, perhaps. :) 
    That’s a really fun idea actually, I might give it a go, thank you :)
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,754 Disability Gamechanger
    edited January 11
    I'll have a look at the links now, thanks for making us aware @chiarieds

    Edit: those three links should now be working. Please give us a shout if you encounter a broken link again, all. I've also now announced the post in recent discussions too, so that more people will see it. 
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  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,397 Disability Gamechanger
    I'd been looking on Google maps, & thought of you @66Mustang
    I used it when people asked us to go to their homes to view books they had for sale.....sometimes at the back of beyond, & I used to get sidetracked looking down the country lanes! :)
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,397 Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you @Tori_Scope - links working fine, & I hope more people will now see this thread as it's really good. :)
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,754 Disability Gamechanger
    Thanks @chiarieds! I'd put the links into a word document so it's possible they didn't copy across properly for some reason. 

    Hopefully more people will see it :) Please also feel free to post your breathing exercise, and any of the other exercises you comment. I did have a quick look for it but ran out of time on Friday!
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  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,397 Disability Gamechanger
    Will do, @Tori_Scope - but please only use if you think OK, & @leeCal has good resources too.  :)
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
    @chiarieds Thanks for your pointers!  Making the post more visible will help us reach more people so I agree  <3
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  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @Tori_Scope the coronavirus link does that only cover England 🇬🇧 
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,754 Disability Gamechanger
    Which one @lisathomas50
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  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @Tori_Scope the coronavirus one 
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,754 Disability Gamechanger
    This one @lisathomas50Coronavirus website section?

    Sorry, I just want to clarify so that I can check this for you :) 
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  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @Tori_Scope yes that one thank you 
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,754 Disability Gamechanger
    No problem @lisathomas50. Scope work across England and Wales, so I imagine that the information and advice on those pages would be applicable to those living in these areas, unless stated otherwise. 

    There's a lot of information on those pages, and a wide range of resources, so if you come across anything specific that you're unsure about then please do flag it up to us so we can check it for you :) Was there anything in particular that you were wondering about? 
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  • Danny3Danny3 Member Posts: 12 Connected
    66Mustang said:
    chiarieds said:
    Another perhaps odd thought I had @66Mustang - would you like to try going for a 'slow' drive with Google maps? You might look at some of your favourite roads, or explore somewhere new, which you might visit later when able to go for a drive again.....something to look forward to, perhaps. :) 
    That’s a really fun idea actually, I might give it a go, thank you :)
    Hi 66Mustang and chiarieds!  Whenever I feel trapped, I look up my favourite places on google earth. Some bloggers do tours of famous cities and places of interest, or go for long drives through open countryside with their car go pros. They can be really interesting.  Especially if you know the areas they are driving through. Seeing places through the eyes and experiences of others is also useful in helping me to render down some places on my bucket list. Seeing some tourist spots and monuments on google earth from street level, has quite put me off wanting to bother going anymore :-)    
  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @Tori_Scope how to get help when you live on your own and you got corona virus and need food or anything 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @lisathomas50

    This Government Coronavirus: Accessing food and essential supplies webpage has links to who to contact and what support is available.  Importantly, it says:
    You may... be eligible for support from the NHS Volunteer Responders programme. You can call 0808 196 3646 and ask for help to pick up food, prescriptions and essential items.

    You can also contact your local authority to find out what support services are available in your area.
    Does that help?
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  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @Cher_Scope I have contacted my local council the other links only apply to England I did phone but they both said becsuse I live in Wales its different here 

    I live rural so its quite difficult our local good bank has closed down due to corona virus sickness and now struggling to get volunteers and the other two are over whelmed because there are to many people needing help 

    I have a bit of food so I will spread it out I get paid on the 2nd of February so hopefuly be better by then 

    Thank you for the links though 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
    @lisathomas50 What am I like forgetting you live in Wales?  I'm so sorry.  Here is the equivalent government advice for people in Wales.  

    How are you getting on?  I hope you are keeping safe  <3
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  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @Cher_Scope thank you  I am still testing positive I have four days left so I will get tested again in four days and go from there 

    The nurse who comes here brings my things she has brought me some fish to have now so I will try 

    Thanks for the advice 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
    @lisathomas50 Take care of yourself lovely, not long to go now  :)
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  • encaserencaser Member Posts: 176 Courageous
    edited January 20
    Personally speaking, I think a lot of people are living in the now too much and not seeing the far more likely lighter times  ahead.
    @66Mustang you clearly have some ongoing and debilitating complaints (I won't say issues, oops!) to deal with on a daily basis and yet you are still compassionate towards others and so I see more than a little light there. I too love driving but realise that if I just went for drives with no intention of getting out, what if I had a breakdown or accident and if most people started to do this, it would raise the risk far higher.
    I would imagine your support worker is trying to guide you towards stepping outside of yourself, as much as actually going anywhere. Going outside can be liberating, of course, but ultimately a person needs to be able to live with themselves where ever they are; as the old saying goes, you always have to come home to yourself. Perhaps try to invest more in what you can do and see yourself more holistically, which includes a sensitive, caring person with a sense of achieving fun in what he can do. Alternatives are useful substitutes to still gain distraction and hopefully pleasure but don't have to be absolutes when change is quite possibly on the horizon if you let it be.
    I hope that doesn't sound too preachy or cheesy..umm, cheese!
  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @encaser I supose in a way its hard to focus on the future the way things are with the lockdowns wsles has been rolled over for another three weeks and new rules come in all the time 
  • encaserencaser Member Posts: 176 Courageous
    edited January 20
    @lisathomas50 I agree that the continual changing of rules can be confusing and irritating. I think that had our various nations stuck to a lockdown to ride this out, it would've been far better and people would've known where they are. It's somewhat cruel in a way, to keep dangling the carrot and suddenly bring out the whip again.
    These are isolating and difficult times to adapt to, what with governments that have mislead and reacted rather than acted in our best interests.
    I have stuck to the highest level of rules, as I only see this as the best way to get out of this pandemic. If everyone remained considerate of not only themselves but others it would help massively. This should ultimately be a relatively short-term event. It is also a time where home comforts, access to the net and so wider access in the sense of contact, libraries, music, films, games and TV whether factual or fiction are all available. Many can still go out for exercise and get the foods and daily needs sorted out, or have others they know, charity workers or those in paid help there. There are of course, though, people struggling desperately just to subsist, which must be simply awful on top of all this.
    There is, however, real hope in vaccines coming and so the above is what I try to focus on. As I said, If people live in the now and focus on what they can't do, it will of course make times more difficult for them. I'm certainly not saying I always see things in rose coloured glasses, as I spend the vast majority of my time in a bedbound world due to disability and ongoing medical issues.
    All a person can do is their best, to try and not disable themselves in mind and body and where possible enjoy what they can. And when they can't, have a vent and grumble on here or with other friends and rellies! Venting is definitely something I believe in, as it may not change things but it also allows you to release some of that bubbling mess inside  ;)
    And, Hello, to you Lisa, I should've started with that!
  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @encaser hi I totally agree with what you say hopefuly things will change for the better soon  and hope you are ok and keeping fairly well 
  • encaserencaser Member Posts: 176 Courageous
    @lisathomas50 thanks Lisa, I'm muddling through.
    Good to see you're making the most of this forum and making an effort to get on as best you can. Stay safe.
  • lisathomas50lisathomas50 Member Posts: 1,855 Pioneering
    @encaser thank you so much for your kind words means alot and you stay safe 
  • SeanchaiSeanchai Member Posts: 388 Pioneering
    I,m so sorry your feeling so low 66Mustang.....and everybody else who is feeling low just now. I can understand how you feel . I have some days where I can cope better than others . I know there are many in a worse position than me ...I have my wife to keep me going . She is correct when she says that there are people far worse off than us....many people are on their own and have no family around . I know I should ( and I do ) feel grateful for having family around , who are happy to get us anything we need and leave it at the door. Alas ...the fact I am luckier than some others does not help at times . 
    I certainly think letting people go out for a drive , I,m sure that would help many people ....especially when there is one law for some and a different law for others . we cannot step out the door but highly paid footballers can get buses up and down the country ( and in some cases , fly to other countries ) totally out of order I believe , if a law is good enough for us , it's good enough for others .
    I have a playstation 4 (which my son gave me when he got his new playstation ) i can,t really get into gaming , even though the graphics are amazing . He gave me a few games with it as well....but i just cannot get into gaming at all .
    I am learning five string bluegrass banjo , so I try to spend some time on it a few times a day . ....that helps me cope. 
    Please take care out there guys ....and may your God go with you 🙏
  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 2,724 Disability Gamechanger
    Sorry @chiarieds I posted this elsewhere in error, 

    meditation is a great way to relax,
    https://www.lionsroar.com/category/how-to/
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,397 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Cher_Scope please would you add leeCal's link on meditation to your resources above. Tori said she would like it, but I missed her today, thank you. And thank you @leeCal :)
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,494 Disability Gamechanger
    @chiarieds Certainly, I've just added it to our exercise section.  Thank you @leeCal :)
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