Mental health

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  • Zippy1983
    Zippy1983 Online Community Member Posts: 282 Empowering

    Just keeping a low profile at this present time, been out to the cinema to watch Fackham Hall. Now going back home and won’t leave there until the new year. I’ve applied for a final order this morning which means I can close the door on my past life in chesterfield. Obviously it’s bitter sweet, but it means I can move forward to having 2026 as a fresh start and a point for me to start living again. Going to start a routine of going to bed for around eight at night, taking my evening meds and doing a sleep meditation. Going to also try starting to walk around the block each day, no matter the weather, alongside doing some gentle stretches to try and free up my stubborn hips. I’ve got a few irons in the fire for events next year, but the big one will be five days away in Scotland. Going to be fun sitting on a train for six hours with a change at Newcastle. Be just nice seeing where my family are from and visit my four times great grandparents final resting place.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    Sending supportive hugs your way @Zippy1983 .

    Hope you enjoyed the movie .

    Please take care of yourself .

    Best wishes always .

    Your stronger than you think and braver than you believe

    And

    Your important

    You matter

    You count

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    Alot of what you have written is very positive @Zippy1983 .

    Hope it all goes well

  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 4,426 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    It certainly does sound positive @Zippy1983 😊

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    I know I dont paint the best picture of myself .

    I know what i am like as a person

    No my mental health is not the best

    But i do have a kind heart

    Many Thanks

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    Im not proud of who I am and how I battle with my mental health

    Im 100 per cent sure its genetic

    I wish i was stronger

    I apologise if im a burden

    Its not on purpose

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    I dont want to be in the way on this forum

    I really dont

  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 11,928 Online Community Programme Lead

    Morning @Strawberry1. I don't think anyone has ever said you're in the way on here, keep being you 😊

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    I appreciate your support @Adrian_Scope .

    Please take care of yourself

    Hope you have a reasonable day

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,988 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1090478#Comment_1090478

    You certainly do have a kind heart! You are a kind soul. Blaming ourselves is something we learn to do over the course of a very long time. Unlearning any habit takes time but the most important thing is you have started. Understanding your autism is going to be life-changing and you have our support but it's bl**dy hard. You're not imagining it; it really is.

    🍓

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    Thanks @WhatThe

    Your kindness is appreciated

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    Look after yourself please @WhatThe

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    When Im told by someone that my kids dont care about me now that hurts alot

    I dunno what to believe

    Why do I have to keep facing all these issues

    Id love a break from curve balls being thrown at me .

  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 11,928 Online Community Programme Lead

    Who tells you that @Strawberry1?

    One thing I’d say is that the only people who truly know how your kids feel about you are your kids themselves. Other people's opinions can be incredibly damaging, especially when they’re spoken as if they’re facts, when there is no real way for them to know what is in your childrens' hearts.

    Silence, busyness, or distance doesn’t automatically mean lack of care. Children, especially adult children, are complicated. They’re often juggling work, relationships, stress, figuring out who they are, and trying to build their own lives. Sometimes that means they don’t show up in ways that look like “care,” even when the care is still very much there.

    Listen to your own heart and what it tells you and try not to let someone else’s words drown that out.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    The person who telling me this is very inconsiderate .

    Thank so much for your time @Adrian_Scope .

    I wish i was as clever as you

    Take care

    Best wishes always

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,988 Championing

    Hello Strawberry 🍓

    Is he actually talking about himself? He doesn't sound very caring. Was he a mummy's boy and always adored? Was he the perfect son to her? Silly so-and-so for using the most precious people in your life to hurt you with 😣

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,988 Championing
    edited December 2025
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1090407#Comment_1090407

    Hi Zippy, I've been wondering how you are (no obligation to reply)

    A good day for me is getting washed, dressed and out; tasks which were once second nature to me. I always feel better for the change of scenery and occasionally exchanging a few words with someone. The rest of the time I spend alone but outdoors is my happy place.

    You already know how therapeutic green spaces are and you know how to motivate yourself, always setting manageable goals to rebuild your confidence and strength. You are an inspiration to some of us on this forum! I can't write much but you do so in depth.

    I agree that the right diet is important for wellbeing. I'm mostly LowFODMAP and an emergency meal for me would be microwavable rice and tinned fish - delicious smothered with balsamic vinegar and lemon juice. Lidl sells pre-cooked quinoa which takes just 2 minutes to heat! Anything with onion garlic chilli peppercorn makes me feel rubbish so no take-aways for me.

    I was out for hours yesterday in blinding winter sun and today I've done the bare minimum. I had to be instructed in how to be more gentle with myself because it doesn't come easily. Being alone is also not easy which is why many of us use the Scope forum to make connections.

    🌵

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 8,146 Championing

    Hello @WhatThe , ive no idea .

    I dont have the knowledge to answer those questions

    Sorry

    Hope you are ok .

    Please take care

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,988 Championing

    You don't need to answer them, Strawberry!

    I'm ok, thanks for asking.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,988 Championing
    edited December 2025

    Last week was surprisingly good but two good weeks in a row? I won't hold my breath 😄

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