1st in 5 years - hairdresser tomorrow

ChrisR777 · May 8

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1124205#Comment_1124205

Sigourney Weaver look ok without hair in 'Alien 3'. 😉

WelshBlue · May 8

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1124215#Comment_1124215

I actually think a lot of women look very attractive with a buzz cut style

I've just bought a skull shaver from TEMU … £14 and it's fantastic. Down to the skin

@StarryEyed … I showed my wife your collection of rings, she loves every one of them

I can't even wear my wedding ring … just looks stupid next to missing digits 😏

66Mustang · May 9

@StarryEyed

I don't think they advertise as "anxiety informed" or anything, but two people at a group I go to use them & they have some similar issues to me

It might be my age showing as well. In the 90s and 00s the barber was almost like a production line, very industrial and you weren't made to feel good about your appearance. They weren't super unkind, but someone with preexisting anxiety around their body/appearance I think would find it became more manifest in that kind of environment

This place I mentioned is a unisex place as well. I get the impression that a lot of men maybe just go begrudgingly to get a job done; whereas women are more interested & engaged, and like to feel good about the experience. As a result of this, hairdressers seem to tend to be a bit more empathetic than barbers so the unisex element might be of benefit to me

luvpink · May 9

I'm loving all the pretty pastel colour shades in for the summer season.

I bought some pink shorts and a pink and white sleeveless blouse to match.

I'm going to buy some pink trousers and a lemon pair which I will need to get taken up because even petite length is too long for me.

I'm hoping we actually get some decent sunny warm weather this year.

Our summers tend to be rainy and wind with only a couple of weeks hot sunshine if we are lucky.

StarryEyed · May 10

@WelshBlue Oh definitely some women can look beautiful even bald as an egg. There's just no stopping some kinds of beautiful. 😊 Here's a closeup of the turquoise ring. (You can click on the images to make them fit your screen.)

Ummmm what happened to your fingers?!

@SheffieldMan1976, my martial arts instructor is coming over in an hour for the second class. I'm very excited, and feeling grateful for your encouragement. Didn't you have a competition coming up soon?

@66Mustang I see what you mean now. Are you thinking of telling them about your issues? I was thinking about telling them but in the end chickened out. So I just white-knuckled it. Let me know if you go and if you find anything that helps, please?

@luvpink Oh your buys sound perfect! It's crazy hot here in the summer, so I have the opposite problem as you. It was such fun in the second-hand stores on Friday. I bought two summer scarves, a t-shirt, a long top cover, and four blouses for £22. For real! They're all quite nice, but one of the blouses and the two summer scarves are quite special. Here they are..

@Santosha12, yes, thank you, I'm okay at this point. Your story about your mom is indeed a compelling story for paying attention to early symptoms. I'm sorry she passed. For today's day and age, 83 is relatively young for a woman. Unbelievable how many cancers she had. Wow. And Alzheimer's to boot? And vascular dementia? She must have been quite the fighter to have pushed through and endured all of those illnesses. So really her last 12 years were full of suffering for both of you. Thank you so much for sharing your story about your mom. The more stories that are out there, the more we learn, and the more we grow together. ❤️

WelshBlue · May 10

@StarryEyed … that ring is truly beautiful. I love the way the silver clasp holds the stone. Understated. But still very eye catching. Almost Egyptian Queen to my thinking

My fingers ? … on my left or right 😁

Left Index and thumb and part of another, a freak one in a million chainsaw accident. The 2 on the right … a million % carelessness and stupity with a circular saw. So rings look rather silly … plus I'm beginning to understand why my wife calls me a liability …

You've posted some really pretty stuff. People look at me strangely when I say I'm jealous of women and all the pretty clothes and shoes they've got a choice of. I stand by it

Good luck and I hope the pesky C stays away

@Santosha12 … it's awful what some people have to suffer, alongside their families who suffer too. Thanks for sharing such personal and very sad words. And yep it's important to check things out early. Your mum sounds like all of that generation. Ridiculously strong

Due to my 'trauma' I have to have an annual camera and a biopsy due to tearing causing precancerous cells. I used to really resent it, then my mindset shifted to …. they've robbed me of my past, they're not robbing me of my future. Plus it helps the surgeon is totally bonkers (he calls me a sheep botherer (<not quite the word) and I call him a camel worrier … nurses just stand on looking bemused …)

I think we get to a certain age and 'dignity' dies. Mine died the day I had to have a bladder pressure test strapped to a moving table, catheters everywhere … and 12 medical students watching

Laid bare never had so much meaning 🤣

@SheffieldMan1976 Not the place here but TEMU and AliExpress, I've had some fantastic value tools etc

luvpink · May 11

@StarryEyed

Your second hand buys are georgous.

I love the floaty top.

I actually donate loads of clothes to local charity shops.

I rarely find any clothes in them for myself but I have bought some good kitchen ware and table cloths.

StarryEyed · May 11

@SheffieldMan1976 good luck with your competition. What fun! I hope you kick some serious bum. 😁

@WelshBlue. Oh dear that's a whole lot of digits to lose!!! Wow. I bet the accident videos are on frequent replay in your head, right? How tragic. So my guess is you're unable to work. Yeah? ....Egyptian Queen ring? Lol! Since I was a kid, I've loved my Mom's taste, so feel so blessed to have all this jewellery. Plus I really didn't have much before so really 'needed' it. I have a whole ton of silver brooches too. ...Yes, I get what you mean about all the pretty things women get to pick from and feel so grateful for that!

@luvpink thank you! Oh yes to secondhand kitchen and dining stuff. And decorations. And jewellery. It's such a rush buying those too - just as much as with the clothes. Donating is awesome too, to contribute to the system. I kind of feel virtuous when donating. 😁

The past week, I've been working on my makeup for the wedding. The biggest challenge is I've got sensitivities to mascara, eyebrow pencil and eyeshadow. So I've had to do a lot of research and try different products. Finally I think I've got it figured out. Tomorrow I'll know. There are just a few days now to the wedding, this Saturday the 16th. So excited!

luvpink · May 12

I bought a white linen blouse/shirt yesterday.

Its quite feminine.

It will match any of my outfits and it will be nice and cool material to wear if we get any hot weather here.

@StarryEyed

I'm sensitive to a lot of products, especially around my eyes so I buy sensitive skin ones.

I thought make up made me look like a clown lol. 🤡 but my sister convinced me it really doesn't.

I never used to wear it except for special occasions but I started wearing it regularly since December after having spent a month in hospital and my appearance was gaunt.

It took a while and a bit of practice and I go for as natural look as I can, and it does hide blemishes and under eye dark circles.

I bet you will look amazing at the wedding on Saturday.

StarryEyed · May 13

Hi @Santosha12 and thank you so much for your lovely stories about your Mom. I've read it a few times already, envisioning as best as I can of what you describe of your last years with your Mom with such pure love and admiration. So precious. It occurs to me that perhaps you model yourself after her example in your current health struggles. Is that so? ... Thank you for the compliments on my stuff. Gee shucks. ... Yes, I'm enjoying very much the pampering in preparation, and I'm taking this opportunity to revamp myself with a new look. It's a lot of fun. ... This tangential thinking in this thread is such a lovely adventure together of sharing our hearts and minds. ❤️😊

@luvpink a white linen blouse is a perfect summer wardrobe piece. Maybe I'll get one next year. ...What products do you use for your eyes? I bought a henna-like dye for my eyebrows and love it! It's by L'Oréal. For the mascara I bought a Clinique product. For the eyeshadow by avoiding shimmery ones, I'm good with my L'Oréal palette. I too go for a natural look. It's one of the great things about aging, that makeup really makes a difference in our look. I haven't bothered much the last few years, as I said before because of being so focused on my health. So it's great fun to be getting into it.

Today's challenge is threefold: Pick which of my two walkers to use, pick my shoes and pick my cape (AKA scarf 😊). I'm leaning towards the sponge shoes I was telling you guys about. I've never worn them as I bought them end of season last year. Here they are. They're like a dusty rose, which I think will go well with the dark green dress. What do you guys think?

I was looking at YouTube to get tips on how to walk with my walker in a way that is sexy or pretty or feminine or anything other than practical (which is how I walk with it). The only thing I could find is this. 😁

https://youtube.com/shorts/zMtgbYs1D9M?is=o2MUpqygOtOPtqZq

luvpink · May 13

@StarryEyed

Hi I wear boots own products for eye make up.

I have ordered online a pair of pink trousers and a lemon pair so hopefully they will be suitable when they arrive.

Bluebell21 · May 15

I hope you have a lovely time at the wedding tomorrow. @StarryEyed

With your beautiful outfit and new hair style you will look stunning.

Enjoy your day.

Holly_Alumni · May 15

Have a fab time at the wedding @StarryEyed. Enjoy yourself and party the night away!

WelshBlue · May 15

@StarryEyed … enjoy the wedding 😊 And apologies … to answer your question, no losing those first lot of fingers wasn't the reason I stopped working. Lost those on a Friday, discharged myself on the Saturday, was driving on the Sunday. Back to work after a month (which wasn't my best idea ever lol)

A few accidents later saw debillitating Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue and the manifestation of PTSD … which were all the reasons I stopped working. The ' experts' reckon my body and brain couldn't take any more trauma so came out in those ways ?

Now I've got fibro's nastier big brother so the future is whatever fate throws at me. Can't change it, so no point stressing about it 😏

@Santosha12 … awww shucks. Always easy to be nice to nice people.

And yep like we've said before - Music and the darkest humour … keep me sane, even if people think I'm ever so slightly weird

I noticed the posts about make-up … my wife swears by Boots £10 Tuesday … when they sell products for ummm £10 (Don't do what she did last week - moan there was no deals. Until I pointed out it was Friday

StarryEyed · May 15

@luvpink I loooove Boots. We don't have it here, but I spent a lot of time there when I was visiting Norwich. Fantastic place. Great prices and great products. Lucky you! ...My favorite t-shirt is lemon yellow, and I wore it today, thinking of you. ...I'm one size too big to wear my colored pants, which are mauve, dark purple, indigo blue and rust. I adore them all, and they're a great incentive to pare down a size. I hope your pants are all you dream of 😊

@Santosha12 yes, the weather is supposed to be perfect tomorrow with sunny skies and mid 20s. .…I'm sure your Mom would be very proud and honoured that you are trying to emulate her - the highest form of flattery. ...Oh yes if it weren't for humour, what the heck is the point??? 😁

@SheffieldMan1976 Well then, I hope you whoop the bum of your imaginary opponent 💪🏼🥋👍🏼😆

@Bluebell21 thank you! I'm still struggling with styling my hair, but I'll wake up super early to tackle that. Fingers crossed!!

@Holly_Scope 🙏🏼😘❣️🥰

@WelshBlue oh dear! I'm sorry you've got so much to cope with. I'd love to talk more about that. Will tag you in a thread I've been wanting to start precisely about this subject soon. ❤️

luvpink · May 15

@StarryEyed

I hope you have a lovely day at the wedding tomorrow.

StarryEyed · May 15

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1125725#Comment_1125725

Thank you so much, @luvpink 🙏🏼😘😊

StarryEyed · May 16

Thank you Darling @Santosha12 ❣️❣️❣️😁 I too feel we're all together in this so feel so very grateful for you.

Well everything is perfect. Just perfect. The goal was to feel pretty, not necessarily be pretty, although they may overlap. And last night I painted my toenails and cannot believe how beautiful I feel. Beautiful, not just pretty. And grounded. And centred. And peaceful. All is right with the world now. I haven't even showered yet, but I'm good to take on the world. Now I can focus on the wedding itself, on the celebration of two young people who still believe in love and marriage. That's the miracle today. 😊

StarryEyed · May 19

The wedding celebration at the church and the reception were perfect. It was a huge wedding of about 200 people and everyone was dressed to the nines, so all my preparation was worth it. It has taken me two days to recover as it was exhausting emotionally and physically. But wow. It was SUCH fun prepping with you guys. Thanks for walking through this part of my journey together. Here are pics of the bride, my meal and me...

(You can click on the pics to fit your screen.)