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WhatThe

What does misery love?

“Misery loves company” is an adage that lived before de Gravina and will outlive all of us. Over time, it has come to have a bad rep with the most common understanding being that those who are unhappy make others unhappy too, or bask in the sorrow of others.15 Oct 2022

(said by somebody, somewhere)

I say misery, like joy, is contagious.

Rachel_Scope

@Katiedimelow20 I've deleted the previous post for you. I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious all the time and that you can't talk to your mum. Is there anything you can do to look after yourself like listening to music or playing a game?

Katiedimelow20

@Rachel_Scope  at home at moment just staying in my bedroom and seem on going issue and my mum doesn't seem to supportive and kept on hurting me more emotion and always feel upsets , always about feel to cry . get super frustrated around my parents . i also do feel trapped in crying of never anywhere I'm went but i can't since my mum took all my healthcare plans . feel like having to mask all the tine Symptoms  anxitey both mental and physical . i still feel trapped in my own home where i should be able to my own sense of self and as well of fake of sense of self .

Rachel_Scope

I'm sorry @Katiedimelow20. It must be exhausting having to mask all the time. Maybe have a look at the Games Den to take your mind off things for a little while. I know it isn't the answer to your problems but even just being distracted by something fun for a little while might help 😊

luvpink

@Bluebell21

I hope you enjoy your holiday.

@Catherine21

So very sorry about fifi thinking about you at this sad time and sending you love.

Elvisdog

@Katiedimelow20 ive spoken before of some of the similarities with your feelings and mother with my own parents. I won't bore you with them details.

My late sister had BPD and psychosis and was sectioned often. She decided to change her next of kin to me, as she felt uncomfortable with my mum knowing everything. It gave her some control back.

I left home when I was 21yrs so I had some control of my own life. I found my feet more though with counciling, it wasn't easy but I started to feel much more in control of my own life. I don't know if you have access to anything like that or have already tried this? Doctor's surgeries often have wellness clinics. im also not sure why you can't see your GP etc on your own? im appointees to both of my adult son's, if they want me or someone else with them then I try to help but I hope that I always give them the opportunity to make their own decisions. My eldest son has direct payments and has support from a carer for several hours a week, she goes shopping with him, takes him to appointments and it's up to him what he wants to do.

I think you may need someone independent who can help you with your difficulties. The only time they will usually pass details to other agencies or family is if they are concerned there is a threat to your life or someone else's.

I really hope you can get some support. I really feel for you.

@WhatThe I assure you that im not basking in others sorrows, im 58 and have had a most colourful life. If I see someone with a struggle and I think I may be able to give a bit of encouragement or advice then I will try. If I see a picture that makes me smile I may post a picture that I think may make others smile. It's my human trait Sept 2025.

Katiedimelow20

@Elvisdog i already tried going to doctors but is was more about irregular period that only what doctors appointment that i got and yep my mum still come in with me when comes to doters and she took care of my healthcare and my money . so I'm trapped here even i don't want to live here . did had also has ultrasound at hospital and going have another ultrasound again not sure when . my mum also been with me to .

Katiedimelow20

@Rachel_Scope also i got a Nintendo switch 2 that i been playing on Splatoon 3 with big run on salmon run and yep i also has been listing to music to . is doesn't really help that much . some music does more . also did watch inside out 2 yesterday and that only thing that has been helping me .

Katiedimelow20

Chris75 is not that easy my mum control my healthcare and money that i get by tc stick and still trapped with my parents .

Schildpad

good night. i am in a rather low mood.i just do not feel things will get better and scared thing will get worse. . i hope tomorrow will be a good day but i feel it will be just as bad.. until tomorrow……

Schildpad

if there is way when you are alone on your own you should talk to someone. is there a person like a social worker where you could talk to. this is pretty serious. that behavior is very controlling can you pass the healthcare etc. to someone else. you should chose who you feel comfortable with. as i said we do not choose our parents. you could try someone you feel more suitable than your mother and someone who will not control you in such way. sometimes the computer chooses the words .. now it has been corrected and i hope it makes sense.

Elvisdog

@Chris75_ no it wasn't meant for me, that was my first post. It's was the qoute I was addressing not the messenger. My apologies to anyone who thought the same @WhatThe if you also thought that too, my sincere apologies. It probably wasn't worded properly by me. 🫠

durhamjaide2001

good evening everyone

Katiedimelow20

Chris75 my mum will try to control me when i get angry at her and she get very explosive of anger to my mum also already went through the menopause . it doesn't matter what emotion i'm in and i get judge, same invalidation

and mock for being anxious more and was already overwhelm and also

Embarrassment, with crying at work at Friday . they kept asking to my mum .

Elvisdog

@Katiedimelow20 its worrying that you don't have an advocate that you would want for yourself. Do you have a social worker? Anyone you can talk to alone? It's very hard it took me years to stand up to my parents, and it was by a letter to them, i gave a copy to my sister asking for her permission as it was about both of us. Also a copy to my gp and social worker. It ended up in heated words following a two year separation, i was so very scared, that's why i had to put it in writing. We finally reconciled and I'm in a better place with them now. Im not as open with my dad but tell my mum things past and future and accept their help when I need it. It's not something I would recommend to you or anyone else, that was my journey but i hope you know that there is help and hope out there.

Katiedimelow20

@Elvisdog i not sure if i do have social worker and i got two sister that doesn't want to help and more about to ask mum about it . work colleague don't even help to

Amberpearl

Still in agony with my knee

I've trued Ice pack raising legs and paracetamol

Don't work

Amberpearl

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1069226#Comment_1069226

The mice seem tk have finally gone on their own accord thank god

I had a text from NHS my xray is 6 oct

Dr gave me codeine ive took paracetamol

How do you cope with the pain

It's agony sitting and rising from a, seat

And the stairs is excruciating

Schildpad

Hope you are a bit better a well. I am in less pain this morning but anxiety is so so. Buy I will go out a bit as weather has improved.

luvpink

Morning all

I have woken up exhausted again but I am going to go out for a while later as I will be stuck indoors for the next couple of days.

I hope you all manage to have a good day.