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  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    My sincere apologies @Kali85 , if I've said anything wrong.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    Think I am struggling a bit.

  • DJS7P
    DJS7P Community member Posts: 27 Contributor

    Always here if you need a friendly ear @Strawberry1

  • Kali85
    Kali85 Community member Posts: 91 Empowering

    Aww thanks @Strawberry1 glad your here too ❤️ your comments have helped me alot so thank you so much I deeply appreciate your kindness. I am new to this too, so far I have found everyone so kind and helpful on this forum, it’s really helped me understand so much about myself

  • Kali85
    Kali85 Community member Posts: 91 Empowering

    Sorry @Strawberry1 only just checked my emails. Sorry to hear you are struggling you can talk to me anytime, if I don’t reply straight away it’s just bcoz I haven’t checked my emails or bcoz I turn my phone off and shut out the the world when I am not coping. Big hugs to you ❤️

  • Andi66
    Andi66 Community member Posts: 403 Empowering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/892225#Comment_892225

    So sorry to hear that, Everyone is here for you. I think what's

  • Andi66
    Andi66 Community member Posts: 403 Empowering

    Just asking, people with autism do you find relationships and reading the signs baffling? I have been taken in and treated terrible by controlling people and narcissistic ones, who just use you. I find hard to see if someone likes you or just being friendly. My over active mind pictures a romantic relationships with someone I don't know just being nice, thinking oh they like me. But when I found someone I get treated like ****, used and abused. That then I am wary but would like to meet someone but going about it and knowing who to trust confuses me.

    I'm in my 50s so maybe past it , so maybe I'm silly thinking about meeting someone. I'm afraid to go on a app as you don't know whose on there. My daughter who also has asd has no problem, she is with a lovely bloke she met on-line.

    Does anyone else have these problems or is it just me

  • Kali85
    Kali85 Community member Posts: 91 Empowering

    hiya @Andi66 yeah I had same problems all my life, I’ve attracted so many narcissists over years not just boyfriends but friends and some family members too unfortunately even one narcissistic sociopath! Good hearted people seem to attract these evil people, sociopaths always on the hunt for broken people with lost souls! 50 is not old, it is supposed to be the new 40! Nobody is ever too old to find love and companionship. Maybe give online dating a go, just dont give out your phone number, just message potential partners on the dating app to get to know them and once you feel safe enough exchange numbers, just take it slow, life is too short to just wonder what could of been ❤️

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    ThAnk you to @Kali85 , @Andi66 and @DJS7P , the support you give is really appreciated.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    I attract bullies 😒 and people who want to take control.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,362 Championing
    edited July 28

    Strawbs, they think they can fix us..

    (we don't need to be fixed but understood)

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    Thank you @WhatThe 😊. Take care 🙂

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    Really appreciate understanding people

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    I was just curious if anyone else doesn't like being around arguments.

  • Kali85
    Kali85 Community member Posts: 91 Empowering

    No I don’t like being around arguments or violence, I get a mad rush of adrenaline all through my body, literally will give me the shakes. I can even sense tensions in the air with people, like I can sense a bad atmosphere like before or after an argument. I don’t like watching any kind of violence on tv either

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    I'm glad its not just me @Kali85 , I myself feel similar to yourself. Thank you so much for your time today 💕 I really appreciate it . Please take care of yourself and please be kind to yourself too 💜. Hope you have a reasonable day today 😊.

  • Andi66
    Andi66 Community member Posts: 403 Empowering

    I hate confrontation. I've been a victim of violence in the past, so I get triggered. I just get upset and fearful

  • Kali85
    Kali85 Community member Posts: 91 Empowering

    yeah I’ve had a lot of violence in my life so I get triggered too, I hate gas lighting too it makes my head feel like it’s going to explode, and people lying to me gets me so mad

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,362 Championing

    I used to think that if I told my OH something, he would hear, understand and remember. No.

    (with my diagnosis, I still have to remind people of my particular 'disorders' and far less often these days, I also forget and become overwhelmed)

    I grew up around lots of arguments and thought this was normal in close relationships..

    Only with the last guy did I see what sociopathic behaviour looked like and sounded like. I got away safely once I stopped reacting, protesting and trying to justify myself. I've not been near one since and if I'm alone for the rest of my life, so be it.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,209 Championing

    So very sorry to hear the issues you have all faced. I detest arguing / bullying etc it's too alarming . There is no need for it i think some people get a kick out of it . My heart goes out to you @Andi66 , @Kali85 and @WhatThe . Wishing none of those awful things happened . Sending gentle hugs. Thank you for your input . Please always be kind to yourselves.

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