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  • Rachel_Scope
    Rachel_Scope Posts: 3,490 Online Community Team

    Hi @Bluebell21. I can understand your view on the number of different discussions. Please be assured we aren’t trying to force people to post in certain places depending on the type of day they’re having and would never mean to be judgemental. We want to offer options for people to post in different places. Sometimes we may move posts to their own discussion if they are derailing the conversation. This gives the poster their own space and allows both conversations to continue without becoming confusing.

    We’ll definitely take on board what you’ve said.

  • Rachel_Scope
    Rachel_Scope Posts: 3,490 Online Community Team

    Sorry to hear you've been struggling @Elvisdog. Are you feeling any better today? Things have been tough for some people recently and we want them to receive support- that's what we're all here for 😊

  • Schildpad
    Schildpad Community Member Posts: 1,015 Empowering

    afternoon . not great but it could be worse i guess

  • Amberpearl
    Amberpearl Community Member Posts: 3,920 Championing

    Resting my knee

    Agony to move

    Absolutely chuckin it down

  • Santosha12
    Santosha12 Posts: 4,276 Championing
    edited September 2025

    I'm sorry you're in pain @Amberpearl. I have osteoarthritis and GTPS worse in my right hip and outer ankles 😬. Have you got any pain relief, I know you're waiting for an xray.

    Did you get rid of your mice? Did they just go of their own accord? The council came to fill in a hole in my concrete outside, said they think it's a rat (think they were just being 'sympathetic' saying 'A rat' , I don't think they'd just come one by one 😬, it's gross. My yorkie had been peering for weeks down the cracks between paving stones sometimes screeching. I thought it was ants as I'd seen a couple.

  • Katiedimelow20
    Katiedimelow20 Community Member Posts: 274 Connected

    Sorry can you delete the post that I post by mistake and meant going a lot on my own being anxious all the time and dealing with emotions guilt trips and gaslighting to . Trying to control when my emotions are out of control. Both of my parents did the same thing . Still very tired. In okay at moment and I just want to live at home but I feel trapped. I can't even say anything that upset me when comes to my mum will get angry at me and used to guit me . I already done trying to fix it.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 5,653 Championing

    What does misery love?

    “Misery loves company” is an adage that lived before de Gravina and will outlive all of us. Over time, it has come to have a bad rep with the most common understanding being that those who are unhappy make others unhappy too, or bask in the sorrow of others.15 Oct 2022

    (said by somebody, somewhere)

    I say misery, like joy, is contagious.

  • Rachel_Scope
    Rachel_Scope Posts: 3,490 Online Community Team

    @Katiedimelow20 I've deleted the previous post for you. I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious all the time and that you can't talk to your mum. Is there anything you can do to look after yourself like listening to music or playing a game?

  • Katiedimelow20
    Katiedimelow20 Community Member Posts: 274 Connected

    @Rachel_Scope  at home at moment just staying in my bedroom and seem on going issue and my mum doesn't seem to supportive and kept on hurting me more emotion and always feel upsets , always about feel to cry . get super frustrated around my parents . i also do feel trapped in crying of never anywhere I'm went but i can't since my mum took all my healthcare plans . feel like having to mask all the tine Symptoms  anxitey both mental and physical . i still feel trapped in my own home where i should be able to my own sense of self and as well of fake of sense of self .

  • Rachel_Scope
    Rachel_Scope Posts: 3,490 Online Community Team

    I'm sorry @Katiedimelow20. It must be exhausting having to mask all the time. Maybe have a look at the Games Den to take your mind off things for a little while. I know it isn't the answer to your problems but even just being distracted by something fun for a little while might help 😊

  • luvpink
    luvpink Community Member Posts: 4,550 Championing

    @Bluebell21

    I hope you enjoy your holiday.

    @Catherine21

    So very sorry about fifi thinking about you at this sad time and sending you love.

  • Elvisdog
    Elvisdog Community Member Posts: 193 Empowering

    @Katiedimelow20 ive spoken before of some of the similarities with your feelings and mother with my own parents. I won't bore you with them details.

    My late sister had BPD and psychosis and was sectioned often. She decided to change her next of kin to me, as she felt uncomfortable with my mum knowing everything. It gave her some control back.

    I left home when I was 21yrs so I had some control of my own life. I found my feet more though with counciling, it wasn't easy but I started to feel much more in control of my own life. I don't know if you have access to anything like that or have already tried this? Doctor's surgeries often have wellness clinics. im also not sure why you can't see your GP etc on your own? im appointees to both of my adult son's, if they want me or someone else with them then I try to help but I hope that I always give them the opportunity to make their own decisions. My eldest son has direct payments and has support from a carer for several hours a week, she goes shopping with him, takes him to appointments and it's up to him what he wants to do.

    I think you may need someone independent who can help you with your difficulties. The only time they will usually pass details to other agencies or family is if they are concerned there is a threat to your life or someone else's.

    I really hope you can get some support. I really feel for you.

    @WhatThe I assure you that im not basking in others sorrows, im 58 and have had a most colourful life. If I see someone with a struggle and I think I may be able to give a bit of encouragement or advice then I will try. If I see a picture that makes me smile I may post a picture that I think may make others smile. It's my human trait Sept 2025.

  • Katiedimelow20
    Katiedimelow20 Community Member Posts: 274 Connected

    @Elvisdog i already tried going to doctors but is was more about irregular period that only what doctors appointment that i got and yep my mum still come in with me when comes to doters and she took care of my healthcare and my money . so I'm trapped here even i don't want to live here . did had also has ultrasound at hospital and going have another ultrasound again not sure when . my mum also been with me to .

  • Katiedimelow20
    Katiedimelow20 Community Member Posts: 274 Connected

    @Rachel_Scope also i got a Nintendo switch 2 that i been playing on Splatoon 3 with big run on salmon run and yep i also has been listing to music to . is doesn't really help that much . some music does more . also did watch inside out 2 yesterday and that only thing that has been helping me .

  • Katiedimelow20
    Katiedimelow20 Community Member Posts: 274 Connected

    Chris75 is not that easy my mum control my healthcare and money that i get by tc stick and still trapped with my parents .

  • Schildpad
    Schildpad Community Member Posts: 1,015 Empowering

    good night. i am in a rather low mood.i just do not feel things will get better and scared thing will get worse. . i hope tomorrow will be a good day but i feel it will be just as bad.. until tomorrow……

  • Schildpad
    Schildpad Community Member Posts: 1,015 Empowering
    edited September 2025

    if there is way when you are alone on your own you should talk to someone. is there a person like a social worker where you could talk to. this is pretty serious. that behavior is very controlling can you pass the healthcare etc. to someone else. you should chose who you feel comfortable with. as i said we do not choose our parents. you could try someone you feel more suitable than your mother and someone who will not control you in such way. sometimes the computer chooses the words .. now it has been corrected and i hope it makes sense.

  • Elvisdog
    Elvisdog Community Member Posts: 193 Empowering

    @Chris75_ no it wasn't meant for me, that was my first post. It's was the qoute I was addressing not the messenger. My apologies to anyone who thought the same @WhatThe if you also thought that too, my sincere apologies. It probably wasn't worded properly by me. 🫠

  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Scope Member Posts: 15,455 Championing

    good evening everyone

  • Katiedimelow20
    Katiedimelow20 Community Member Posts: 274 Connected

    Chris75 my mum will try to control me when i get angry at her and she get very explosive of anger to my mum also already went through the menopause . it doesn't matter what emotion i'm in and i get judge, same invalidation

    and mock for being anxious more and was already overwhelm and also

    Embarrassment, with crying at work at Friday . they kept asking to my mum .