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myjakeys Member Posts: 23 Courageous
I have a little boy who is 6 years old and has cerebral palsy. He can walk and wears splints on both legs. The problem is he won t poo on his potty or the toilet, he will gladly tell me when he needs a wee but when it comes to the poo he will just do it in his undies. He is under a continence nurse at the moment but we are both at a loss as he just won t do it. I have tried taking stuff of him ( this was my last resort) but this has nt worked. Has anyone got any ideas , thanks xxxx


  • BusyOT
    BusyOT Member Posts: 76
    Hi "my jakeys" Very frustrating problem I bet! Maybe the Health Visitor or a specialist paediatric nurse will be able to help identify if its a physical CP thing or a behavioural issue. Either will result in very different interventions. Hopefully someone on here will be able to help!
  • JimJams
    JimJams Member Posts: 174 Connected
    My son had similar issues when potty training, we put loads of fun stuff in the toilet, showed him the poo being put down the toilet out of his pants over and over , then we eventually made him do this himself , even pick it up from the floor and put it in the toilet, we were very consistent with this and this worked in the end, we also had lots of pictures of the toilet available for him and when we saw him pressing into his pants gave him the toilet card and guided him in there , even if he was doing it in his pants, then removed it and put it down the toilet saying use toilet next time. Good luck and hope some of this will hellp, it is quite drastic approach but it worked
  • jsmum
    jsmum Member Posts: 1
    Our son was the same, he used to hold it back as well so would go into his pants many times a day. I am pleased to say that now he goes once a day on the toilet, something we never thought would happen. It took us a long time though.
    We did it step by step with help from the toiletting nurse. Firstly, we got him doing it in pullups, so whenever he needed to go we gave him the pullups and he eventually did it in them. This was much easier when we were out, although it did feel like a step backwards.
    Then we made him go to the bathroom to put the pullups on and do it there.
    Finally, when he was fully used to all that, during the school holidays we stayed in and wouldn't allow him the pullups and he went around with no pants or trousers on. We had this sort of commode thing in the living room which he could sit on easily, and when he got really anxious and upset and needed to go he did sit on it and eventually, after many tears, he went to the toilet on it. When he got used to that, we moved it to the bathroom, and the final step was him going to the toilet.
    We haven't had any problems with him since. I remember how hard it was at the time though.
    I hope this helps


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