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Safe sex problems

Hi,
I’m 32 and I have EDS (Elhers Danlos Hypermobility) and HyperSensitivities. Over the years I’ve found penatrative sex difficult as I react badly to many, if not all Condoms.
I have switched to latex free and then found I was getting problems with the lube used on certain condoms. I have now been through 5 different brands and am still having trouble. They are causing a great deal of pain and swelling.
Can you reccomend anything, so that I can have sex safely?
Thank you.
I’m 32 and I have EDS (Elhers Danlos Hypermobility) and HyperSensitivities. Over the years I’ve found penatrative sex difficult as I react badly to many, if not all Condoms.
I have switched to latex free and then found I was getting problems with the lube used on certain condoms. I have now been through 5 different brands and am still having trouble. They are causing a great deal of pain and swelling.
Can you reccomend anything, so that I can have sex safely?
Thank you.
Replies
Thanks, yes I have tried the UK version of Unique, i’ve heard the USA version is different but annoying to get hold if.
Being over-sized myself (not big but bigger than average) I have made a lot of effort in learning such techniques for just such a reason and to make things a two-way experience. Maybe it's an age thing because until I was a few years younger than yourself I wasn't keen on spending too much time.on such things, I lacked the patience I now have, lol! Seriously though, if you have a regular partner then discussing it should be ok so long as neither of you get embarrassed about such discussions. If you are single though it will be much more difficult but you would simply have to get the message across that "quickies" are simply out of the question.
I hope you find a solution/
TK
I’m lucky to have current partner who understands and we have talked it through a lot.
I know what you mean about it’s difficult to talk about it. It’s only in the last few years that I have stopped giving a dam and being super nervous to get my needs met.
Openess really does make sex easier and more fulfilling in the long run.
Thank You.
The other suggestion, from another colleague who is a sexual health doctor, is: Latex allergy in EDS is very common and the Pasante Unique are the favoured option, but SKYN are good too. Alternatively something that can reduce the allergic response may be what’s needed....GP/consultant could contact a dermatologist with a specialist interest?
Are either of those suggestions any help? Hope you had a good weekend!
I have yet to try Pasante, so I will track them down and give them a go.
Really, thank you so much for the help. X