Hi, my name is Happymomma3! My son doesn't want to see his father. What can I do?

Happymomma3
Happymomma3 Community member Posts: 1 Listener
edited March 2022 in Families and carers
Hi so I have a son that's autistic he's 9years old. in August of last year his father came out of prison he was in there for 5 years out of my son's life. now he's been trying to force our son to go with him but our son doesn't want to go and when that happens dad tells him he's going to send mom to jail if he doesn't go with him.
there have been so many times my son tells me that his dad will hit him and he's scared to even stay the night we have 50/50 and his dad still doesn't understand that his son doesn't want to go with him now he's calling cops to come and force our son to go with him. his father thinks I tell my son not to go with him but that is not the case I just want what's best for our son but father still doesn't understand that. and has introduced our son to his other half and I'm not sure what my son thinks of that. but I understand that he has rights as well to be able to speak for him self but father just won't hear him out and try to force him to leave.
I'm not sure what to do any more?
can any one please give me some time of advance on what I can do.

Comments

  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,443 Championing
    Welcome to the community @Happymomma3 :) Thank you for joining the community, and for being so open and honest in your first post here. 

    I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, as it sounds quite distressing for both you and your son. I'm about to send you an email from community@scope.org.uk to see if there's anything we can do to help, so please do keep an eye out for that. 
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,922 Championing
    Hi and welcome to the community 

    I'm sorry about you'd so and what you are both going through 

    You need yo get legal advice ASAP from a family solicitor they can do urgent orders through the court to stop access . However I'm my own experience you will have to go to court at sometime for a court order and they don't like to stop them seeing a parent but will if if puts the child at risk . They may offer supervised access 

    You need to do this properly and have legal orders in place 
  • Alex_Alumni
    Alex_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,538 Championing
    Hi @Happymomma3 I'm sorry to hear about your situation too, and I hope you and your son are okay. 

    How are things today?

    Do keep an eye out for Tori's email from community@scope.org.uk and let us know if you feel we can help with anything.