Feeling lonely

Glaitness

Agnia,
I'm sorry to hear of your situation ,and the people here have been lovely and offered lots of useful and helpful advice . Most of it has to start with you ,as my mum used to say nothing changes if nothing changes . if you don't make any steps you will unfortunately be in the same position this time next year,when if you have made referrals or got in touch with CAB you would be so much further down the line.
CAB have been great with me .I have Autism and phones are a big stumbling block for me ,and I had debts and needed benefit advice etc.CAB have done lots of phoning for me ,help reduce some debts ,fill in forms ,somethings that I thought were truly overwhelming at the time are being sorted out one at a time .It'll take some time and that's fine ,,but I trust them and it's better than putting your head in the sand .When CAB people spoke on my behalf ,everyone was great ,tried to be as helpful as they could.I thought they would chase me ,but they didn't .Once they know the situation I would say most people are lovely and go out of their way to help if they can .It's hard making the first step ,but only you can do it 

surfygoose

@Glaitness this is what it says online in case I don’t explain well:
“Social prescribing can meet many different types of non-clinical need, ranging from support and advice for individuals experiencing debt, unemployment, housing or mobility issues to tackling loneliness by building social connections through joining local community groups, such as walking, singing or gardening groups.“

The social prescribers at our local GP surgery are great. They tell people about clubs they can join. I go to a local peer support group and often the social prescriber comes along bringing a new member to introduce them and get them settled in.

Agnia

im sorry surfygoose i didn’t reply to you earlier i cannot manage with anxiety depression and this place where i live 

Agnia

i cannot sleep at night and when i sleep im having nightmares 
my bed is next to the stairs to the communal area it’s really noisy from planes here and car park 

Adrian_Scope

Glaitness said:

Hi Hannah,
Just curious ,what is a social prescriber ?
I've never heard of that before .

Good morning @Glaitness.
Social prescribing is a program by the NHS that aims to help people improve their overall health and happiness in ways that aren't just medical or don't involve just medicine. Instead of only giving medications, doctors can connect people to activities or services like support groups, art classes and exercise groups. I've also heard people getting one-to-one social support through it but believe what's on offer varies by area. It recognises that things like feeling lonely or not having many friends can affect health so it tries to improve health in a complete and more holistic way, alongside medical treatments.
You can read more about it on the NHS page on social prescribing. 

Glaitness

Thankyou very much , you explained it very well . 

Glaitness

My gp has never mentioned it to me .However I have found lots of community groups,warm hubs ,food banks community groups offering loads of things arts and crafts ,company,free tea and biscuits and free lunch .There is always somewhere there to talk to  which is great .If I sit in the house I just go over and over the same old stuff .If I don't go and then I do they are like where have u been ,that's so sweet.People are generally very kind and helpful,once you made the first move

Adrian_Scope

It's nice when people care like that and remember you @Glaitness and I agree, generally most people are very kind and willing to help. Do you make it out to the community groups often?

surfygoose

That’s great that you have joined all those things @glaitness and like you say it’s so nice when people notice if you haven’t been for a while.
@Agnia I really hope that one day you will feel well enough to try some of those things too because they can be so helpful. It’s nice to see you post again even though you’ve been having a hard time. It’s good that you felt able to comment here.

Glaitness

There’s something on most days . 

So I can get up and think I’ll go to the community cafe and have tea and biscuits.  They have free tea and biscuits 5 days per week and free lunches 3 days per week and there’s other groups / places to go . At the beginning . I thought leaving my house to get tea and biscuits when I have them in the house was a bit wierd , but now I get company, get to read the paper . 

Meet loads of characters and get a good laugh. 

Can’t ask for better than that 

Agnia

Thank you very much @surfygoose

lillo

Hi I’m new here but if you feel like a chat I’m here for you, I live on my own I’m disabled hun and find it hard as we get older it gets harder too xx

Agnia

Thank you @lillo

Agnia

i really miss my family they live in Poland and they don’t want to see me and they don’t want to have a contact with me im a burden for them 
this is too hard for me to cope with it 

RainbowFluff

It's very sad to read your family don't wish to see you or contact you @agnia, do you know why? I'm not close with my family either and it is difficult

Jimm_Scope

I recently looked at my local towns monthly magazine and I was actually quite surprised how many meet and greet programmes run, even in my small town. 

WhatThe

Agnia,

It's awful to feel rejected by your family and even worse when you live in another country. It's like a double loss. But it doesn't have to mean forever. 
Perhaps your mother and brother need more time to accept how unwell you are and that you want to return. They may imagine that life in London with welfare benefits is easy! Repatriation is still possible when you are stronger.  

Your mental health crisis matters right now because the constant stress is damaging you and you're not eating. Our brains need water, protein and sleep to function properly. Your GP needs to know you are not coping - book an urgent telephone appointment soon, please. A short hospital stay means you can get away from that house, rest and be looked after which is what you need.
 
You could have your needs assessed there, a care plan put in place, and support to find more suitable accommodation.      
Please let me know what you think

WhatThe

Do you know this support network in SW London ?

PYZA - Slawek Szczepanski

0203 6498 260

www.polishfamily.org.uk

Agnia

Thank you @RainbowFluff  
im sorry that you are not close with your family
it’s very hard for me my situation 
my brother wrote that i will be homeless if i go there and other things he wrote as well 

Agnia

Thank you @Jimm_Scope im sorry 
i am not able to go outside