When is the right time to tell the person you're dating that you are on the autistic spectrum?

veganjewells

I am new to dating since coming out recently. Although I am very open with my friends and family about my struggles with being on the spectrum, I am definitely more anxious and coucious (spelling?) about it with new people, especially new partners. 

[Deleted User]

Depends on the person, if you tell him and he drops you like a hot brick, he was never right for you to begin with...

chiarieds

I have a genetic disorder that has unfortunately been passed down to my children. When my son asked me, 'when do you say something,' I said, you don't have to say anything, but, when you become serious about someone, then you need to say. My son has also been described by a neuropsychologist as 'next door to Aspergers.' When he met the lovely person who is now his wife, she later commented that she hadn't even realised; she does now, as she has to remind him to do things, & teases how did I ever cope with him?

As above, see how things go; if the person doesn't appreciate you for who you are, likely not worth knowing. Another might not even consider you different, rather a person who is definitely an interesting individual, & worth getting to know.

janer1967

Hi there 

If your new partner does not notice then I would wait till it comes to a situation where they may notice 

Just so they are not shocked by something you do and think you had hidden it from them 

Also I would wait till you are sure it is going to turn into more than couple of dates 

However some people would want to make sure it was out in the open right from the start 

You wouldn't want to develop feelings for them and then risk getting hurt if they find it an issue later 

samgold

not sure that there is a right time for it, just need to be honest and not afraid of the consequences. It's part of you and your partner should be accepting it

E_Price123

It's a good question, I have been through a few relationships now and have started to wonder the reason we choose to hide these. It's what makes us interesting and separates us from the rest. For me it always triggers my anxiety not being sure if they know I am different, so why not celebrate our differences. Better to rule out those people who might not be right for us from the start, so we can use the time to find people that would be able to manage a different way of thinking.

The key is to find the confidence in yourself and know that you are unique. Albert Einstein, Steven Jobs, Mozart and Andy Warhol were just a few names of celebrities with autism I recently found out!